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boy issue.
ok. well me and this guy were going out for about 3 months and a day. he broke up with me for another girl. and that never worked out. we fought alot after the break up, and its been about 3 months since the breakup. we ignored eachother for like 3 weeks. and then he started talking to me ALOT. i still love him, and want him back. the last thing i said to him was "why do you keep IMing me, i thought you hated me" and he always contacts me, i never contact him. but now he doesnt anymore. he says he never thought about going back out with me, he told my best friend that. and he says in his myspace hes single and looking, but just wants to have fun, no serious relationship. i would love to makeout with him, and just have sexual fun with him, but not actually have sex. im 13 years old. and im not sure what to do, say, or make a move. i want to make him horny, and get him interested and everything but nothing too serious. i just want him back. any suggestions ?
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Well first off, definently don't write him a note. Guys can be assholes and show what you wrote them to everyone, to try and embarrass you. Talking is far more effective.
And you should never try to get a guy back by getting physical with him. That will only makes things worse in the end. When you do that, he will look at you as a booty-call and will only use you to get what he wants and then leave you. You want him back, but the only way to get him back as a boyfriend, is to talk to him, and get to know eachother again. Don't fight with him. Fighting when you guys aren't even together can only make things worse. There is a point when no relationship is worth another chance. Yours is on the brink of that, so tread carefully. My last bf of 4 months dumped me for another girl, and two weeks later he came back to me, in tears, asking for me back. I gave him another chance because I loved him. But we talked alot before we got back, and did not mess around until we were together. You will end up getting hurt if you mess around with him. He will only see you as a person to fool around with, and not a girlfriend. You can't seduce a guy into loving and dating you. It just doesn't work. Someone always gets hurt. He obviously wants space right now, and also wants to stay single and mess around with other girls. Do you want to be some other girl? Absolutely not. You want to be his only girl. But when you mess around with him, I guarantee you won't be the only one he is messing around with. And I don't think you would like the idea of him being with other girls and with you too. So give him his space. Contact him once in a while, and see where that takes you. Whenever a guy breaks up with his girlfriend for another girl, he obviously wasn't happy. It doesn't make what he did right at all, but you and him I'm guessing fought alot when you guys were dating. So learn how to actually talk to eachother. And make him want you back. Just not in the way you are thinking. Make him sorry for what he did. I've been through the same thing so I know what you are going through. Plus you are 13. And 3 months may seem very long, which it is at your age, (My first relationship lasted a week lol), but compare three months to a year. Doesn't compare much does it? After 3 months, you are just getting used to eachother and getting to know eachother better. So don't try to make it go farther than that by immediately jumping in his pants. Talk to him. Get to know him. And figure out if he really is who you want. You might realize that he isn't. And if you do, you will be very relieved to know that you didn't do anything with him. I hope I helped you and if you every need anymore advice, don't hesitate to note my inbox for more help.
~Sherah
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Well mabe he doesnt want a serious relationship, theres nothing really you can do about that but accept the fact. Mabe if you do something with him sexual he might want to go back out with you or have a serious relationship. Just show him that you still care and dont be mean to him. i have a feeling he'll come around. start IMing him or calling him and let him know how you feel. but once again if he dont want a serious relationship theres nothing really you can do but try to convince him you want to be with him for along time and hope he feels the same way.
p.s your 13... but its up to you. just dont loose your virginity at 13.. you most likely will regret it. but doing other stuff really isnt that bad , just dont get a reputation as a HO* , and dont go around doing sexual stuff with random people.
GOODlUCK- && i hope ihelped
&&heart's;;kayla
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hey, okay first off your only 13!! you shouldnt want to do sexual things and make him horny. making out is fine but sexual things and making him horny are going to far. but thats your preference. if you just want this relationship for sexual matters then i wouldnt go for it, because chances are thats all he wants to. if thats true he might break your heart, again. but if you really want a relationship aside sexual things then go for it! to get him back just write him a note expressing how you feel. that way he cant scream in your face or delete the email you sent him. he could rip up the note but chances are that he wont, because when most people get notes they want to read them. cait♥
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