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cheating?
ok so a few years ago i came across a few letters and had no idea what it really meant, then a few weeks ago i went looking for the letters again. In those letters i found out my father had had an affair with my mothers best friend. My parents are stilll together, and they do not know that i have found out about this secret. And then a few days ago i found some txt messages on my dads phone saying stuff like "u never really loved me...u f***** me..." they were not from anyone i knew, but why were they on his phone?
Separate to knowing this, i started to cut. i got scared thought, beacause i know you can cut a vein and die.
im sad and angery, but i have no real reason.
i really want to talk to someone about everything but who can i turn to? sometime i feel like a therapist might help but i have no way of getting to one...
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I know that it's really hurtful to know that your parents are having a rough time, but I think that you should try to look around in their personal life together anymore. It only makes you angrier and more depressed and scared.
If you really feel upset about your parents, I think that you should try talking to one of your parents that you feel closest to. I know you may not think they'll understand, but if you just explain that you feel worried about what's happening between them, they might be able to assure you and tell you a little about what's going on. And if you need someone else to turn to, then maybe you should try the school counselor or a good friend you can trust. School counselors can really help because if you are having a hard time in school, they can let your teachers know that you aren't doing really well right now.
I think what's making you depressed is your parents problems. Maybe you felt like they were having a great marriage and you uncovered a secret that is really hard to take in. This can be really hard to cope with. I think you need to take things easy and confide in a counselor or a trusted adult.
-TheTeenGirl
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Hi
It must be really hard to find out that your parent's marriage has/had some major flaws.
As kids we grow up looking up to our parents and seeing the way they treat each other. If it was me I would bring it up to whichever parent you feel most comfortable talking to..this may be both.
It's obviously eating you up inside, which is causing you to hurt yourself. I don't think you want to be cutting yourself and leaving permanent scars on your body. Is there a counsellor at your school that you could confide in?
Seeing a therapist is not hard to do. You could contact a hospital and ask about their mental health program.
You're an intelligent girl, and you know that you need to talk about this in order to resolve it within yourself. Please keep in mind that you have no control over what happens in your parent's marriage and therefore you shouldn't take on that responsibility.
Please get help...because you're right...cutting yourself can lead to MAJOR health issues both physically and mentally. Take care.
Brenda
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