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i was just wondering
okay well i was wondering if it hurt the first time you have sex.. i kno im not ready to do it but i was just curious. I dont kno if it wil hurt me because i dont know if i tore my "hymen"... i read on coolnurse.com that you can break your hymen by doing things such as horseback riding, inserting tampons, or while masturbating. i do all three of those examples... i use tampons whenever i get my period and i have been riding horses almost everyday since i was 6.. how do i kno that i have torn my hymen??? i was justtt wonderin<333
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Great question -
Yes, the first time you have sex, breaking the hymen can be painful. However, you are right that by the time most girls have sex for the first time, the hymen is usually broken by some other event. (Riding a bike, horseback riding, sure...those things could do it.)
Let me give you a breakdown of what happens when penetrative sex happens for the first time. I want to de-mystify things a bit for you, since it really does sound pretty scary. You're doing this for the first time, and things are BREAKING...that doesn't sound good, does it? :P
They hymen is a small flap of tissue that forms a barrier in the vaginal canal. It is different thicknesses for each woman, but most are pretty thin membranes. When most hymens break, there's little to no blood. Yes, if you've used a tampon, the likelyhood is that your hymen has been broken.
However, that's not to say that the first time you have sex will or won't be painful. What many people describe as pain during their first time may be the fact that their partner is bigger than they are able to accomodate without experience. It may be that they are not properly lubricated, which can cause tearing of vaginal tissue...which can bleed. (Incidentally, this is often confused with the hymen breaking.)
The truth is, before you have sexual intercourse, you should know what you're able to handle. This is not a decision to be made lightly, and doing some self-exploration can help you to know your body a bit better. How many fingers you're comfortable being penetrated by before ever having sex is a good thing to know about yourself. That way, if you find yourself in a situation with a partner who is far bigger than you know you can handle, you can make a health decision for your body.
On a personal note, please treat your first time as something you'll remember forever...because you will. Make sure it's special, make sure you're SAFE (both physically AND with safer sex barriers), and please make sure that you're emotionally ready. No one should ever pressure you into it, and even if you do want to do it...make sure you think about it before you lose control in a rush of pleasure. It's hard to think with your clothes off.
Best of luck, be careful, and be well -
Marissa
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There isn't any way you can tell yourself. A doctor could tell you if you were to be examined.
I wouldn't want to tell you it doesn't hurt. I think the thickness of the hymen plays a role in that. I don't think you could call it extremely painful or anything for most girls. I think because there is some blood involved a lot of times that makes a person think it might be. :)
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most people it does hurt.. but ive learned (im still a virgin but from classes) that it doesnt hurt because youve never done it it hurts because the guy normal isnt expirienced enough (college guys are less painful than highschool ones for the most part for example) unless you go to a gyno i dont think you can tell whether you tore your hymen or not but most likely you did although a tampon most likely would not break it unless you used one which was wayyyyy to big
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i'm a virgin but i'm pretty sure it hurts the first time. that's what i heard. i guess its different for everyone, but for most people it does hurt. you can only tell you have torn it by going to the gyno. they can tell if its torn er not.
-hope that helped!♥
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