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Hurtful Things
Alright. Well. I Found Out In The Beginning Of The Year That My One Friend Alicia Said Something Pretty Hurtful About Me To Our Other Friend Jasmine. Well, Alicia Said Something About My Weight && It Was Mean. I Didn't Bring It Up Then Because I Was Too Embarassed && Stuff. But, Should I Just Forget About It? Or Bring It Up Now (Not Like Get Mad, But Ask Her About It)? Or Is It Too Late && I Just Should Let It Go? I'll Rate && Give Feedback. Thanks!
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you should bring it up because your obviously not over it plus friends shouldn't talk about each other behind backs so i think you should talk to Alicia and tell her that what she said hurt and she's obviously not a true friend for saying it in the first place. you'll feel better once you tell her how you feel and she should hopefully realize how hurt you are and not do it again.
good luck,
~shandi~
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First of all, if it bothers you very much, then you should probably talk to her about it. It will clear up the air. Your friendship will be affected if you have doubts about Alicia.
Think about it, though: What if you did confront Alicia and she just denies it? That would definitely make you happier, but it might cause a ruckus because Alicia really wants to find out who told you.
Some questions, though: Wasn't there a time when you thought badly of your friends? (You didn't necessarily have to share it with anybody, but maybe you were thinking it.) Wasn't there a time that you were so mad at them that you wanted to end the friendship? Wasn't there a time that you had a bad day and you just blamed someone to make yourself feel better?
Those aren't bad things to do. It's just a natural reaction of humans. We tend to be defensive when something bad happened to us.
Just think that you might cause an issue out of nothing. Maybe Alicia had a bad day and she just wanted to blow off some steam. You were her target at that time, but I'm sure she said mean things aobut other people, too, so you don't have to take it personally.
But, if it really bothers you and you can't be reassured by my former words, then you should talk about it. You know that your mind and heart won't be settled unless you talk about it.
If you think, though, that Alicia just fell under one of the categories I mentioned, then you should just let it go and treat her like the friend you think she is. If ever she really isn't a true friend, her meanness will come back to her, and at least you have a clear conscience.
I hope you make the right decision for yourself.
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True friends should never hurt your feelings and if it's bugging you talk to her about it, ask her if she still likes you and tell her if she has a problem with you tell you rather than anyone else.
I hope this works
Madi
xxxxx
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Talk to her...If it is so important to you, talk about it with her...Ok?But if i were you i would not talk to her.I would not let her know that i know what she told about me.And then, if i would be sure that she told sth else too, this period, i would talk to her.
But the "right" thing is to talk to her.You decide..Let me know what you are going to do.Ok????
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Ask her about it! Its never too late for that sorta thing. Sure if you would've brought it up earlier you would be more entitled to get mad about it but if you ask her calmly and casually now without getting all mad the convo will go smoother.
Good luck sweetheart!
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I'm sure that what she said was really upsetting to hear, but sometimes you just have to think about what it would accomplish by bringing it up. She would probably deny it and it will stir up more trouble with the people you heard it from.
You also just have to know that you have to figure out who your real friends are by what you get from your own perspective and not from other people. In other words, you have to start actually hearing or seeing what she does to prove whether the friendship is true or not. If you start believing what other people hear, it's not the best way to go. People will twist things around from what other people say and it will get back to that person as something different.
I'm not saying that she didn't say it, but this happened in the past. Wait to question your friendship with this girl when something goes on in the present.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well hun, If you were hurt by the comment she made ask her about it. Try not to accuse her of it but just say someone or a few people (but don't mention who) said they heard you say this. If she says no I would trust her unless you believe it is true about what she said. Trust your heart and it will tell you what to believe and do. If you need anymore advice please feel free to send me something in my inbox!! Hope I helped you
Love meggs
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