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Big Brother Issues
Recently, my brother has been in a serious relationship with his new girlfriend, Amber. Amber used to be one of my really good friends. Until my brother started dating her. But that isnt the issue. The issue is that he has lately been going behind my parents' backs. He just got a job at a stupid joe-schmo computer store that isnt paying him at all. zippo. Well, tonight, the shop decided to close early because tomorrow is good friday and they had nothing else left to work on. So, he decided to stay away (instead of coming home) and went over to Ambers house. Ever since he has been dating her, I noticed a change in his attitude. He has been more "i dont care-ish." He has come home with hickeys on his neck and eye liner on. He has been sneaking away to see her... without permission. He has been lying and kniving. He didnt used to be like this. He just turned 17. Will be 18 in November. He has said that he wants to move in with Amber and has threatened to move out. So, my question is, what can I do? If anything? give me ideas for my parents. We are out of ideas on things to do. Tonight, we are taking his truck away and he isnt getting it back. We might sell it. But, what should we do about his slipping grades? He sits and plays video games in math class. He has lost his scholarship to college. any ideas on what we should do to help him? We go to church 3 times a week. For him it is only 2. He has to work on Wed. Nights. Thanks.
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Wow what I would do is have you your mom and your dad all to right a letter about how he is acting sit down with out any one but you and the ones involved to friends or his girl friend and read the letters to him telling him how scared you are for him k and maybe talk to his g/f a different time but make sure she is not there when you talk to him.
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wow that sounds EXACTLY like my friend when he was goin out with his ex-girlfriend. But anyways. I know that your sick of him and his i dont care-ish ways. but hes almost 18. Its a phase that he`ll get over soon. All teenagers go through this phase. It`s like the first one where they threten to run away. He`ll get over it soon. I`m not sure what to say about his grades. I`d say just to let him do what hes doing and he`ll regret it. I`m sorry im not much help. I haven`t really been that close with anyone that age except my cousin whos the same way. Good luck with him. He`ll get outta the stage soon and you`ll have your origional brother back =]
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I know that you are probably tired of your brother doing so many things that aren't responsible on his part and not being able to convince him of that.
What you have to learn is that you can't. He is almost an adult, and he may not be acting like one at the moment, but he will be the one to decide what his life has in store for him by doing what he does. I know that you probably want something done about this because you feel like he's getting away with a lot and is hurting you and your family, but soon he will be the only one he has after all of the pain he has caused you.
He may not pay his price tomorrow, next week, or even the next 5 years for that matter. It could be a life sentence of paying the price. One thing that can mess so many things up. And I know you feel impatient about him paying the price later, but it's not something as small as tripping or just getting hurt physically. I'm talking about something resulting in jail. You say that his actions could make your parents put him in jail. That will be a price he will pay if he continues this. Or maybe Amber will leave him. I'm not saying that it will actually happen, but if he's a jerk to everyone around him, he'll be a jerk to her too eventually.
He's at a point in his life where he decides what will happen in the future or what he wants. If he decides that grades are not important, then he's deciding that having a good paying career isn't important. That's also a big price to pay. No education-no good jobs. If he decides that sneaking out is ok, then he's deciding that respecting his parent's wishes isn't important. Do you see how these decisions can bring a whole new consequence to his life?
If he were younger, I'd probably tell you different, but he's almost 18. An age where he takes over and makes the hard decisons. The decisions that may truly define him. I know that it's hard not to be concerned about him when he's been the center of attention lately, but sometimes thats when you should find a place or somebody else to get him out of your thoughts. A place where he doesn't really exist.
-TheTeenGirl
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