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equal sides of an arguement
i think i might be having some boyfriend problems. a few days ago i was like 1% considering that i should break up with this guy i've been going out with. then the next morning it was completely out of the question. i couldnt tell my friends my problem because i knew the moment they heard this, it would be all around the school. the thing is, he's really cute, smart, well-known, and sweet to me. the first time i talked to him on the phone, he seemed like he was myself in another sex! we just had soo much in common, like a lot of the little things. we also had a few things that made us different. i like heights, scary movies, and partying with my friends. he on the other hand, wouldn't dance even if he was paid, likes his feet on the ground, and perfers comdedies. i mean, i shouldnt judge him by those stupid things though right?
well anyway, we've been going out for 6 months which is pretty rare for 13 year olds. when i really thought about it, i knew i would regret breaking up with him in the end. i like the idea that he's loyal, honest, and walks me to my class whenever he sees me. now whenever he calls, we run out of things to talk about in less than 10 minutes. when my other guy friends call, im usually the one babbling on about the most random things. sometimes i even feel like i should make up an excuse to get off the phone with him. do i just have nothing to say because i really like my boyfriend and dont want to embarrass myself by saying something stupid?
its weird, but part of me wants to leave my options open. but then again, my boyfriend was the best one i've ever had in my life.
i planned a party for next week and he's invited. i think that will help us reconnect a little more because i've had parties like this before and they've always resulted with me watching him leave with butterflies in my stomach. he also invited me to come mini golfing with him this friday. but my god, do i suck at mini golf or what. what can i do to make our "date" not boring without making him feel awkward?
i hope you guys can answer my questions (the last sentence of each paragraph haha). please, im wishing i can get some good answers before friday...
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If you suck at mini golf, find a reason to laugh at your mistakes. Make the atmosphere light.
Tell jokes. Talk about things he likes to do.
I had a 21 month relationship that started when I was ten (wow that sounds weird, doesn't it?). We would always have those silences on the phone, but they were comfortable. We tried to fill them with other things. Example, we had diverse tastes in music, so we would play our favorite songs for eachother. He would also play his guitar and his trumpet for me. It was kind of painful to the ears at first, but we laughed at it all, in the end.
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Hello. =)
Like you said, you and him have alot in common. Those few random *little* things shouldn't matter at all. It's no reason to break up with him..
Actually, in my opinion, i think it's good that you suck at mini golf. That way you'll have something to keep you guys occupied, him teaching you how to play. Also, you two would have another thing you enjoy doing together (hopefully you have fun) and you two would get the opportunity to learn from each other which is a good thing in a relationship. Maybe the next time you go out you could teach him how to figure skate, or something you like to do, haha. Just a suggestion.. =_=;;
Anyway, on to my point, trust me, it won't be boring.
Oh, && the phone situation is completely normal. You're just running out of things to say. Try being random && try to learn more things about him.
I hope all goes well. If you need anything else, leave me one in tha inbox. =)
Good Luck!
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ok hun, first you shouldnt go crazy on the little thingss!!!you are lucky to have someone like him. also, if you guys are alike and he understands you and you have been going out for 6 months i dont think hell care if your bad at an old ppl sport (lol)..and if he feels the way you do then hell be cool aboutt it!
much love
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No you shoulden't really judge him by the things that intrest him, you have a bunch of other stuff in common so why would 3 or 4 things matter?
I don't really know why you have nothing to say on the phone anymore, I'm not you but after a while there is nothing really to talk about. My sister has been with her boyfriend (now fiance') for four years, she said after a while our conversations on the phone got cut short by a lot. Because they both ran out of things to talk about. But it didn't hurt their relationship at all. As long as you go out often and hang out, and talk then..there shouldent be a problem. But you can talk to your guy friends more easily, just because you dont have the pressure of saying something stupid because their not your boyfriend. So yes you could just be embarassed, but dont be...he's your boyfriend and he'll think stupid stuff you say/do is just cute.
You said it. You suck at Mini Golf. He can help you, have him teach you or have him be behind you to help with your swing (aww cute). It wont be boring having him helping you. Your date wont be awkward, you've been going out for 6 months. Your relationship is at a point where anything you guys do wont embarass both of you, you'll just probably laugh.
Hopefully I helped, maybe a little?
If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask! =)
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