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Im dying here
Okay this is Saylor again. Today someone told my sister that Nate and his ex was holding hands, and I hope thats not true because I really like him I mean REALLY like him I know Nate wouldnt do this to me and I have tempted to call him and everything but I cant get the nerve and when I do what will I say? I love his ex to death and I dont want him to be pissed at me cause I really like him and I love her to death, heck I played basketball with this girl. I dont know what to do, my heart is broken and I feel like killing. Help Please!
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I'm sorry about the delay, Saylor. This is an awfully hard question for me to answer, since I have no personal experience in the area of teen love.
"Today someone told my sister..."
Okay, first off: if you let every second-hand rumor drive you crazy, you WILL go crazy. You need to do your best to ignore that sort of thing, because it really won't help you.
"...that Nate and his ex was holding hands..."
Holding hands means different things for boys and girls. And it means MORE for a girl than a boy.
"...I have tempted to call him and everything but I cant get the nerve and when I do what will I say?"
Maybe you should email or IM him. That's easier than calling. On the other hand, it means that there's a permanent record if he says no.
This is easy for me to say, and I know it would be harder for you, but sometimes the straightest distance between two points is a line. So the way to call him would be to go to the phone, dial his number, ask for him if he doesn't pick up the phone himself, and say "Hi! This is Saylor. I was wondering, would you like to do (X) with me?"
A movie isn't a bad possible activity, although it would be more unusual if you could think of something a little different. I'd generally recommend against a concert, because they're so loud that you wouldn't be able to talk. Of course movies are loud too, but you'd probably have more time together before and after; and somehow movies are more private (and not AS loud, of course).
"I love his ex to death and I dont want him to be pissed at me cause I really like him and I love her to death, heck I played basketball with this girl."
Complicated. VERY complicated. His ex is a friend of yours and his ex MAY still be involved with him (or getting re-involved with him)...yeah, that definitely makes everything harder. The smartest thing I can think of is to talk to his ex. Ask if they ARE getting back together, and if they aren't, ask if she minds if you ask him out.
If they are getting back together, though, I'm afraid you're out of luck. But if it's any consolation, as much as it hurts (and I know it does), the pain WILL fade with time - more quickly than you think.
I had about a million unreciprocated crushes when I was your age, and I can tell you honestly: I only remember the name of ONE of them. And she grew up to be a huge massive-shouldered and totally unattractive woman. :D
So don't lose your head!
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