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Is he over her?!
17F. Ok heres the deal. Me and this guy are sorta on the verge of starting a relationship, but he says he not ready yet. But i think its something else. I don't think that he is over his ex-girlfriend. He swears he's over her but i just don't think he is. He told me the story about wat happened between them and she did do him really wrong,and it really does sound like he was in love with her, but its been over a year now since they broke up, and I know u cant really put a time limit on getting over someone but you shouldn't dwell on it like he does. He keeps bringing her name into all of our conversations and goes on for hours and about how much he loved her and how wrong she did him and how much he misses talking to her. I know that if he loved her, and of course he will always love her, or have some feelings for her theres not doubt about that, and i don't expect him not too, but i don't think its just that. I think he is still IN LOVE with her and trust me theres a big difference. He says he's not but i don't know if i believe him, i mean i want to but there's something in my head and my heart thats telling me that he's still in love with her. And he says that he is kinda looking for some of the qualities that their relationship had, and some similarities between her and the next person he talks to and i am nothing like her. I don't know if i should just let him go and move on. Or tell him that we just need a break until he figures out how he feels about her or wat, although he says he is soo sure that he's over her. Or just keep talking to him and hope that he really is over her.
I need help. Tell me, is he really over her, and wat should i do?????
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I don't think he is really over her if he keeps talking about her ....I think he is seeking what he lost in you and that's wrong.
You are right on time because you don't have a relationship yet ...
I will say don't hurt yourself this way because if he is not over her you will sufer a lot and the relationship will not grow old
I think he rather see you as a friend and not as his girlfriend..
You should just be friend with him .
Tell him how you feel and tell him to be honest with him self.Becuase if he is not honest with him self how can eh be honest to you?
Think about it..
Hope I helped
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I think you are right, He isn't over his girlfriend. You shouldn't expect him to even still love her just because they had an intensly good relationship. The attention is focused on this girl in your conversations, he's constantly bringing her up and telling you how much he misses her, and he's always trying to assure you that he's over her. If I were to have a chart of signs that someone is still in love with their ex, I'd put those signs in as major warning signs.
Now he may like you a lot too, but it will never work if he's always talking about her AND if he's expecting you to be alike to her in your relationship. He's looking for a girl just like his ex except all of the pain she caused him. And you should tell him that he is not going to ever find that in you. You are the new girlfriend, not the old one.
Right now, I really think you need to hold all of this off and stick with being a close friend. If he stays away from her and gets a lot more time to get over her and clear his head, he will eventually understand that it's time to move on. And he will also get that it's not a turn on when you ramble on about your exes. Don't let him convince you that he really is over her when you tell him that he needs more time. He's talking about his ex and doesn't even know when he's doing it probably.
-TheTeenGirl
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If he says he is over her, then maybe you should believe him. Unless he is showing some major signs that he still wants her then maybe you should believe him
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