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my friend is a fake
my friend constantly copies everyone, and changes her opinion to match everyone elses. she lies just to be the saem as everyone else. it annoys me SO much, and i hate it. how can i tell her how i feel??
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You can tell her.....but not with that wording!!
They say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. People usually copy others because they have low self esteem. They find or see someone who seems to be full of confidence and everything they wish they could be and they adopt that persons hairstyle, clothing, occasionally even mannerisms, in an attempt to make themselves appear better than they truly are.
This being the likely reason for her behaviour, you will have to be very careful about what you say to her because if you say anything like that you hate it when she does it or that it annoys you, she will take it as a huge insult and it will really hurt her feelings.
Try sitting her down and explaining that you've noticed she might have low self esteem and you're worried about her. Explain that you've spotted the way she seems to copy what everyone else is doing and that you don't want her to do that because you want to know who SHE is and get to know HER. You want to know what she thinks, wears, does from day to day. Not her version of the way everyone else does everything. Make sure she realises you still think of her as a friend and that is why you're worried.
After that, she should start to develop her own personality and she should blossom but you need to ensure everyone reacts positively when she does something or says something individual to the rest of you. Never forget that this is always better than negative reinforcement.
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i agree with assuager, and uh make new friends.
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Tell your friend that its about time that she starts stating her own oppionon and its okay to be different. Tell her not to hold in what she realy feels just to be cool. Tell her it's really bothering you and you jsut want to tell her and talk to her so you friend ship dosnt get ruined over this.
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i have a friend just like that.. i've told her once that she doesnt have her own style and shes following people she got soo mad and me and we didnt speak for like a week. you might be able to say something like "didnt you like __ a while ago and now you like hate it/them" then she might realize that she is changing alot for other people
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Just tell her she should do her own thing instead of everyone else. Everyone should be themselves
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