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I told her not to tell
OK, so two of my good friends were going out. Then the girl dumped the guy. The guy is on my bus and he was absolutley devastaded. So my other friend and I were trying to make him feel better. Then my other friend called his exgirlfriend a whore. Last night I told his exgirlfriend about it and now she wants to confront my other friend. I told her in confidence and asked her not to but she said she won't use my name. I know she won't but what if my friend finds out I told her? How can I stop the exgirlfriend from telling her?
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You know what...although you shouldn't have told her what your other friend said about her, he still said it. And whatever he said, he should be responsible for, so you have nothing to worry about. Nothing bad will come your way unless either of your friends are complete douchebags. What people say about other friends is their problem. When it is repeated, it is not a reflection of the one who repeated it, but of the one who originally said it. And your guy friend has somewhat of an excuse for what he said: he was devastated and heartbroken. If the girl is any kind of a real friend she would give the guy a break and just let it go.
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if you told her in confidence, then you have nothing to worry about.
next time let them deal with it on their own though, it might save a couple friendships
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If you have 2 friends in a relationship. The best thing to do is stay out of the middle.
Don't tell one what the other says...broke up or not. Don't allow them to talk bad about the other to you at all.
The damage is done now. Hopefully he won't find out it was you who told.
From now on though don't tattle to them about what the other one said. It just hurts feelings and isn't going to make a difference in the long run. You are the one they all wind up mad at. :)
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I see. I think I would try and talk her out of a confrontation. It won't do any real good. She knows now what the other girl thinks of her, she should really just leave it at that.
If she doesn't though, I would hope she wouldn't slip and say you told her.It could be easy to do that in the heat of an argument.
On the other hand she really shouldn't have said it to you, since she knows you are her friend too.
Try to talk them out of any kind of confrontation. If you can be there at the time maybe you can at least keep it from getting out of hand. Kind of break up any real argument so she doesn't tell.
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