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Phone Phobia
Okay so, my boyfriend calls me everynight and half the time I dread his calls. DONT GET ME WRONG; I really really like him, but I Hate the phone. Like he's kinda shy so theres always that ackward silence and idk I've never liked talking on the phone. I always feel guilty cause I always make some excuse to hang up to end the ackwardness and since I hate talking on the phone. He doesn't have AIM so we can't talk on that .. soo what do I do?
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I had the EXACT same problem with my ex-boyfriend, Jack. He was always so quiet on the phone and he called me every hour and it was very annoying. In the end, I broke up with him, but that does not mean that you have to break up with yours. Simply tell him that you don't like talking on the phone, and can you go to the mall or movies with him instead.
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ok, i'm not really terrified of being on the phone but i still get awkward silences with my BF and basically we just admit that it's awkward and say something totally random like "how was track practice" get the idea, it helps
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I have the same phobia of phones. Just tell him about it, then he knows why you act like that and that'll clear the air.
What about talking over IM or something instead? It has the immediacy of the phone but you can express yourself a little better.
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Hmm...so you choose to rate only me and rate me poorly? That wasn't very nice of you. Just because what I said was "weird" doesn't mean it's bad advice. That's what the ratings are for. Not to judge people, but to judge their advice so they know how well they're doing and can improve the advice that they give. You are the one that is asking for advice, you are the one that wants to improve yourself so don't insult the people that try to help you. If it wasn't somewhat weird to you, you probably would have been able to come up with it on your own.
Don't ask a question expecting a certain answer or not being open to other people's experiences, opinions, or ideas. Advice is about being creative not about reapeating what other people said or giving the most obvious answers. I shared a very embarassing story with you which was hard to do even anonymously. I wanted you to see that what you're going through isn't a problem, just an annoyance that most everyone experiences at one time or another. There's nothing wrong with you, like there was with me, and there's not much you can do about your awkward silences. My story was meant to make you feel better and maybe even amuse you at how ridiculous I actually was in order to help you see all of that. Try my advice, it may actually work. I would be the one to know right? After all those years of complete terror. Talk on the phone more often and write down some things to say. What can it possibly hurt? Who knows it may even help. Honestly, I think it will. As hard as it may be to comprehend, I care about you and want you to be at least a little happier even if what you're going through isn't a huge deal.
I used to be so terrified of the phone. It was so bad I would throw up whenever I had to call someone. Just last year I got over it. My boyfriend helped me. He would call all the time and I'd get upset and not know what to say. One day I told him about it. I'm the type of person that when someone insults me it helps me out and he knows me really well. So he just kept picking on me about it and forcing me to talk on the phone more and call people. Because of that, I don't get so scared anymore. Don't get me wrong, I still hate talking on the phone, but I don't get sick or scared about it and I can hold a conversation without writing down everything I want to say. Since my boyfriend helped me out so much, maybe yours can help you! Just tell him what you're going through. It can't hurt. Make yourself talk on the phone more to more people. The more you do it, the easier it should get and the more naturally it will come. It also helps to write down some of the things you want to say beforehand. That helps keep the conversation going. When you don't know what to say just pick something off of your list. I did that for a very long time. I still do sometimes. It helps quite a bit. I know that you can get over this, you're not nearly as bad as I was and I'm doing aok. So tell your boyfriend about it, be strong, and good luck!
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i think you should tell him about it. just tell him not to take it personally but that you just never liked talking on the phone. i mean your not like the only person that hates the phone.
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