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How do I chose? What do I do?
This might be long so sorry! Ok, I have a boyfrend lets call him Mark. Mark and me have been going out for about 7 or 8 months. Recently, all of my friends have been calling him gay and bisexual and they are telling me to break up with him because he is "Mr. Flirtacious". I love Mark sooo much and my friends just dont understand, and they kept bothering me about him so i told them that i broke up with him but i really didnt. Then i told one of my friends that i really didnt break up with him and she is REALLY mad at me!!! We arent really "friends" anymore and i dont know what to do. I know lying is wrong...but should i chose my friends or the guy? thanx for any help i rate high!!!
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ohkay so i have been in a situation kind of like this. if your friends dont trust you or agree with you or are behind you 100%, then they arent true friends ... if they really cared about you, they wouldnt be getting all mad at you for a dumb reason! and everyone tells little white lies, and you were just telling one to get your "friends" off your back! plus its your business, not theres. i would choose the guy cause he cares about you, unlike the way your "friends" are acting
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Both your friends and Mark are in the wrong. Mark should not be flirting with everyone, if it bothers you. Your friends need to bud out. They should be happy that you have such a great guy. Plan a party or something, and invite everyone. Show your friends what kind of person Mark is. Also, tlak this out with them. Explain to them that you don't appreciate them telling you what to do. You'll respect their opinions, if they respect your decisions. Good luck.
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Well this once happened to me sorta.If you really love Mark then you love him and no one should get in the way of that.If they were true friends they shouldn't even start that. You just need to talk to your friends and tell them you love him and feelings you have for someone can't just go away.If they understand that's great if not then you need new TRUE friends.♥
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Who is being less accepting of you and your friend(s)...is it the group of friends or your boyfriend. It seems to be your group of friends, so go and talk to them. Tell them the truth. Yes tell them that you lied to them and that you are still going out with them. Tell them why you lied to them.
I'm guessing thats probably what you didn't want to hear or want to do, but if they really do care about you and are your friends then they will look past that and just be glad you told them the truth instead of finding out a few months later through somebody else.
Ask them why they are saying those things about him. Do they have proof? Is being with him taking away time from hanging out with your other friends? Could it be that they are jealous? Or could it be that they are right and that he is a completely different person when he is not around you?
Those are questions you need to ask yourself, your friends, and your boyfriend. If you love Mark, then you can't let anything anyone else says bother you...you and Mark are the ones in the relationship, not your friends. While they may be looking out for you and tell you stories (which it will be your job to find out if they are true or not), it is ultimately up to you to decide. If you want to stay with the guy, then let your other friends know that they need to either accept you for that, or if they refuse then you can't be friends with them anymore - because really, not liking you for the kind of boyfriend you have is rediculous.
So talk to both of them, all of them, let them know how you feel, and ask both your boyfriend and friends to accept you and your other friends for who they are, they should come around. It is ultimately up to you to choose, who do you trust more? Hope that helped and good luck.
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Have you tried asking your friends why they are behaving like this? Possibly they know something you don't, possibly they are jealous that he chose you and not one of them and that you are so happy together. If there are no grounds for their behaviour, they're not acting like true friends are they? Follow your heart, if you really want to be with Mark, go for it. They will either come round or you'll make new friends. Good luck.
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Hmmm, this ones a tough one... and it all really depends on you. =] you just have to think about it, who do you apreciate and love more, your friends or your boyfriends... and actually, you shouldent have to choose... i mean, if there your friends, then they should understand. you love that guy, but you love your friends too, if you explain that to them, they should get it. haha, sorry if that was confusing =], hope this helps you hun!
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