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i like my guy friend but were both just too shy
i have a really big great circle of friends, mostly girls but we hang out with a few guys too. So, i have a crush on one of my guy friends, and my friends brought up that we would make a good couple, after that i fessed up to acctually liking the guy. After that they told me that they thought that he was flirting with me that night (before the guys went home, and the girls slept over), i am not the best at judging this sort of thing, but he is just a nice guy, and there were mostly girls at the party so he had to sit next to one of us - so could this mean that he wasn't really flirting and just being himself? he is also very shy too, he doesn't really touch anyone, the most physical contact i have had with him is playing egyptian rat screw and slapping on the same card pile. I am also more experienced, so i wonder if he will ever get the guts to show me his real feelings. What should i do to let him know i like him without losing a friend?
15, female
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Yeah last year the same thing happened to me...n let's jus say we're jus friends. If he's a loyal friend and you've had fights in which he comes back and accepts you're apology go out for it because you MAY not lose his friendship if ya'll ever break up. Other than that get to know him more and it may develop and if ater all that you're still just friends..try not to push it anymore. Tell him you think he's cool and he's make a good boyfriend (jus dont say to y ou ) and try your best to let him know you'lll consider him (esp when he feels down).
Maybe he was flirting with you and maybe not. As time goes by you'll find out because he'll do it more often. Also if ya'll ever go out with other friend see where he'll sit...if it's oposite (he's shy), nex to you (most likely into you) and if he sits by some other person without hesitation...you're just friends.
But again it doesn't really matter what I think or say because it's up to you. Then again let your friendship grow...because people that have a friendship for a while are the people who have the best relationshipssss
G. Luck
Jamie
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thats the hardest thing, making just a friend more than just a friend without losing the friendship. but with my experience with shy guys (trust me, i`ve been in this exact situation) is the closer they get to a girl that is only a friend, the more they feel comfortable with her. and since most shy guys don`t go out with a lot of girls, he`ll realize that his one close girl friend he actually likes more than a friend. shy guys are hard to work with, but just be flirty in a nonagressive way. maybe he`ll loosen up. and if his actions don`t change but your friends still thinks he may like you, then tell him how you feel. i know thats the hardest thing to do but theres no way around it. just go for it, because the worst thing is to do nothing about it, and look back and wonder what would have happend.
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Hmmm! I think that if he hears it from you, you will have less chances of losing him as a friend. Really think about it: if you involve someone else, then chances are translations will be lost between you, your friend, and the guy, and that will somehow create tension between you and the girl...not only that but two possible things [and this is what I've heard happens the most]:
1. Because the girl is now more involved with knowing about you and about the guy, she might feel like she's developing feelings for the guy or just feelings of jealousy.
2. The guy might think its all just a set up and get confuesed and not know what to do. Why? Well chances are if one of your friends told him that you like him, wouldn't that question his next move? He wouldnt be sure whether or not he should believe it, go after it, go after you, think it could be fake, etc.
So with that said, tell him yourself. Openly and clearly say: hey I wanted to tell you something but don't take it the wrong way...[tell him whatever it is you want]. If you have a crush on him let him know, but if at the same time you don't want to risk a relationship and don't really mind if he doesn't have a crush on you or something either - let him know that too.
So yeah tell him how you feel. Tell him about your thoughts. Remember, if he is as shy as you say he is, don't expect him to be too open, but don't put him down if hes too quiet either, ya know? If you want let him know that you're not even sure it could be something and don't really mind - its up to you. Hope that helped and good luck.
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