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a best friend is lieing to me.. and i dont know how to handl
me and four other friends had a really strong friendship.. and now one person has a boyfriend.. for a few months now. lately she has been ditching us for him.. and lying about it. she has been saying she is going with her family.. when she is really with him. the lying has really gotten out of hand.. so we talked to her and told her how we felt.. and she said last week that she was going to stop.. and she is really gonna stop ditching and lieing to us.. and then this weekend she lied and ditched us again fo him. i dont know what to do... i cant think of anything that will work to get through to her. it is upsetting all of us.. and its getting really hard. we dont want to lose her as a friend.. and we feel like we are. we have run out of ideas on how to get through to her.. can anybody help?
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You just need to let her go off with him and tell her that if she can't be a true friend, then you can't be a friend at all. You've already told her how you felt about the lying.
Also, try to understand that just because she's found a boyfriend that makes her happy, it doesn't mean that she's forgotten about you. She is just really happy to have a boyfriend, it's all new and exciting. That little "honeymoon" phase with her and her boyfriend will be gone if she even stays with him for that long. But, if she's lying, then that's when you should start getting upset.
Let her know that she is losing her friendships by lying and covering up the fact that she's with her boyfriend again, and tell her that you'd rather her be telling you the truth and being with him all of the time rather than lying about it. Tell her that you are aware of her lies still. If she still can't accept that she's damaging her friendships, then don't talk to her, but DO NOT round up your other two friends and team up on her. That would be just as cruel, you have to be the mature one in this situation.
-TheTeenGirl
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what I think you need to do is sit down with her one on one and tell her how YOU feel and how you think that she is distroying your friendship. Friends come before BOYFRiENDS right? and she needs to know this because it seems like she doesn`t. or if that doesnt work maybe you should stop being friends. and i know you dont want that to be an option and i know how you feel, but sweetie you need friends that can be TRUE to you.. i hope i helped and good luck sweetie!
xo
tori ♥
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