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i really like him
two years ago i started going out with this boy he was 15 i was like 16 i didnt really like him that much we had sh together in school and he would always sit behind me and pass me these pieces of paper that said things like your hott and whats your phone number i just thought he was a funny guy. well that summer we got closer and started dating. after a month i broke up with him bc i didnt think i liked him anymore, but things didnt end alltogether we became friends w benefits. then he started dating this other girl who im now best friends with. they recently broke up and now she has a diff bf. fri the 13th he asked me over and we had sex again. its been like 13 days and i havent heard from him and we havent talking in school either. what should i do or say to him?
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Aren't you eighteen now? You said two years ago you were sixteen, so you are at least an adult now, so why are you doing a childish thing like friends with benefits?
You should be acting your age! Not that anyone should be doing friends with benefits but don't you think that maybe you should know better? I guess not. This is exactly what you deserve for putting yourself through this with a guy thats free to do whatever he wants. He doesn't HAVE to call you and tell you where he's been or where he is. You guys are only friends that have sex! That is what message you are giving to this guy. Friends with benefits isn't commitment, it's having freedom of going off and doing other girls including you. Aren't you grossed out yet?
I think that you need to have a little more respect for yourself and call the whole thing off. Think about what you are doing. You are an adult! Make decisions that respect yourself and the people around you. This is damaging you more than anyone else. Think about that, too.
-TheTeenGirl
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What you really need to say to him is no more sex.
He is just using you. He doesn't honestly give a hoot what your feelings are. That's the point of friends with benefits.
Unless a guy is willing to make you his girlfriend and really, honestly cares about you, you shouldn't be having sex with him.
As it stands right now, he has you available for sex whenever the mood takes him. The rest of the time you are left hanging in the wind while other girls get his heart. Move on away from this guy. You can do a lot better then him. :)
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Well, has he been ignoring you completely, like not even greeting you when he passes by?
He just got out of a relationship, God knows what goes around in his head now. Maybe he doesn't want to bother with beign nice and sensitive to girls, maybe it just doesn't occur to him to do that because he is walowing, you can't know.
You can either give him some time, or, take action yourself. He invited you over last time, so why don't you take some initiative this time and ask him over?
Whatever you do, remember that getting over a relationship is hard for anyone. One moment you want to be left alone, the next moment you want to forget your sorrow in the arms of another girl, and another moment you just want to cry until you're all dried up. Just try being a friend and be there for him if he lets you, and don't expect too much from him for a while. I think that's what he needs, and what would work best for the both of you in the long run.
Take care.
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umm..i think that you should go up to him and talk to him about it and see whats up because i think that he was ust using you for that night and you shouldnt have done that because now your friend might get mad wehn she hears if..well good luck,hope you used protection..
[♥]DiNA
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Personally, friends with benefits is not the way to go. Second off he just broke up with someone, be it your best friend or not, he's just looking for some rebound action. I don't see you going anywhere with this guy who isn't frankly worth your time. So you had sex, egh? Wow that's deep. Unfortunatly, I don't think he feels the same. Don't allow him to think that he can just have you when he wants you, either make him work for it or just up a quit.
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