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Did I Have The Right To Do What I Did?
Hi, I'm a 13 year old female. My friend Amber and I have been friends for about a year. Yeah, I know not long but were are or were best friends. It all started when she made me extremly mad over not telling me she was going out with my Ex boyfriend. I have no feelings for him what-so-ever. But I felt that since I told her everything and we had agreed that we would tell anything to each other that she should have told me.
So I wrote her a letter telling her I was upset and that she should have at least told me when she first started dating him. She always takes things the wrong way, like for example when I wrote her the letter; she thought that I was not her friend and that I didn't want to be around her. When I clearly stated in the letter that I didn't want our friendship to end.
She always takes things that way and she made me feel guilty over it. But I when I wrote the letter I wasn't like, "You stupid hoe! You should have told me!!". Not like that. So my question is. Did I have a right to do what I did?
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this same situation happened to me a week ago. i broke up with my boyfriend and an hour later, he started going out with my friend. i didnt realise this until about 2 weeks later when my friend told me what happened. i was outraged!! i think you did the right thing, but make sure you explain to her what you truly think. if you want to be friends with her, tell her she was mistaken and tell her that you still want to be her friend, even though she kept this a secret.
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I don't see anything wrong with telling your friend how you feel. Friends should be open with each other and able to tell each other if they feel something is wrong.
Since she has taken it the wrong way, you may need to sit down with her for a heart-to-heart. Remind her again that you don't want the friendship to end. Let her know that you were upset, not because she was dating your ex, but instead because you were hurt that she didn't share the information with you. If you're normally both open with each other, tell her how much that means to you so she can see exactly why her hiding her relationship hurt. Good luck.
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Writing a letter to her was perfectly fine.
And you did nothing wrong.
If your friend took it the wrong way then I suggest you sit her down and explain that you still would like to be friends with her but it was wrong of her not to tell you from the begining that she was dating your ex boyfriend.
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