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does my social worker like me?
I have a mental illness and have been out of the work force for a long time. What I have is called schizophrenia. I've been supporting myself for the last 5 years by being on a disability pension. I just got a job a couple of months ago part time. I get about 25 hours a week and don't need to collect my pension anymore. Well my question is about this man that works as a social worker for the local mental health association. I've known him for about 2 years and I've always sensed an attraction. Well yesterday he saw me get out of my car. He works in the building next to where my appartment is. He was asking me about the job and then when I told him it was going well he said " Good for you", and the way he was looking at me it wasnt just friendly it seemed more than that, like he had sexual feelings for me. I remember one summer when I went on a camping trip sponsered by mental health he went and he kept staring at me. Do you think this may mean he has feelings for me? And couldnt he get in trouble if he did want to date me because I'm a client of his. Oh yeah, he is 43 and I am 27.
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It would be highly unprofessional for someone who works with you to become involved in a relationship with you. In fact, he's already coming close to crossing boundaries simply by the fact that you feel he is attracted to you.
While people can be attracted to anyone at any time, please be aware that this man might not be the most careful or caring person to become involved with. If he attempted to make a pass at you, it would show that he had no respect for the client/carer relationship - and also that his personal judgement might be lacking.
Be aware of the possible negative outcomes of dating this person. If he DOES make an advance and you are uncomfortable, you have a right to lodge a complaint with the mental health association.
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I would imagine that there *may* be some difficulties with him dating you if you are indeed in a working relationship with him. However, please don't get the wrong idea that just because you're schizophrenic it automatically means that you can never be in a relationship. Engage him in more conversation and perhaps the truth will emerge eventually regarding his feelings toward you.
As a precaution, do be ever mindful that there are people out there who take advantage of others. If he's the predatory sort, he may view you as "easy pickings" because of your clinical history. You will need to determine his motives by listening to how he approaches the "relationship" subject. Do not grant him power over you in any shape or form by automatically acquiescing to his suggestions. Be in control of where you want to direct this matter.
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i know this might sound mean, but since you have schizophrenia, how do you know if you aren't just imagining him?
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He is a helpful and caring person, which is probably why he has the job he does.
What you are seeing is probably just him being concerned about how you are doing. I am sure they have rules against dating clients. If he were interested he would probably have turned your case over to someone else.
So, I think he does have feelings for you. He cares about how you are doing and wants you to succeed. However, it probably is nothing more than that.
It sounds as if you have a very good friend in this man. :)
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