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I gotta win him over
ok so i'm sorry if this is long but for you guys 2 understand you need sum background info. I want guys and grls 2 answer this question please.
First of all i'm 14/f and in 8th grade. I like this guy alot at my skool. We are friends and talk 24/7 on IM. We have 2 classes with eachother band and L.A. When we go on band trips he askes me 2 sit by him on the bus, he's been asking me who I like lately and sumtimes i c him looking at me. Plus he is so nice 2 me and says things that make me feel good about myself. Seems like he likes me right? Wrong. So I found out who he likes and he says that that is true. Plus another sucky thing for me is that the girl he likes, likes him back! How much worse could this get? I was devistated. I keep talking 2 him and he does the same things. Are these things signs? Or do I just like him alot and I want them 2 mean sumthing they dont? Any way i'm just really confused. I need 2 know how 2 make this guy like me. I REALLY REALLY like him and I really want him 2 like me back. I really need help please. I know there r hundreds of these kinda questions but i don't know i just need you 2 answer this one please.
much luv xoxoxoox,
marsbars
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okay here we go.. i had the same problem he DOES like you!!!! guys can like more than one gurl at a time!!! just be patient the guy i liked we told each otehr that we like ach other and he went out with another gurl!! okay so just chill chill out and wait he still likes you you just need time and another way is to make him jealous and say YOu like someone or pretend u are going out withh someone this works trust me, and also play hard to get
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Please note that short of brainwashing and indoctrination, you cannot MAKE somebody like you. It's a process that requires time, patience, and a sparkling personality on your part (because, really now, if he likes you for, say, being an easy lay, does he *really* like you for who you are? Or is it for the sex?)
Having said that, this potential boyfriend of your sounds confused, indecisive, and lost - i.e. he's a typical teenager. If you want to be in a relationship with little drama, find a guy who's not as ambiguous as the fellow you're currently trying to win over. Consider the fact that even if you *do* somehow end up with him, you'll always have to be wary of the possibility that his eyes may be wandering toward this other girl and she may be actively trying to steal him from you.
Naturally, you needn't take any of this lying down. You may adopt a variety of courses to rid yourself of "competitors", but one thing you must be cognizant of is that there's a limit to how much you can do. Sometimes you can save yourself a lot of frustration by dumping the willy-nillying clod for greener pastures.
In any case, the best way to approach this matter is to ask him outright. Yes, it can be terrifying, but if you don't ask, you'll never know. You can also forget about getting a straight answer from him out of his own accord. He'll probably continue to play you like a violin either because he's an attention whore or he's so confused that he thinks he can have the both of you.
Your answer, therefore, is to ask him directly.
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He sounds like just a really good friend.
It's possible that he could like you but not think much of it because of this other girl he likes now.
You should talk to him about your situation and see what he's thinking.
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