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My boyfriend and I are very close, but recently we've had some trouble. We don't argue, but it just seems like we lost interest. It hasn't necessarily been a big issue yet, but I feel like it will be. I love him and I don't want our relationship to get ruined. Should I break it off right now to avoid any trouble between us, or should I just see how it goes? If I do break up with him, he'll understand.
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maybe you can just make it more intersting... like for 1 see each other less so the visit is more fun and have more exciting dates.. like do scaventure hunts together or go swim with dolphins or something off the wall. it will make your lives more fun and intersting
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Right now the biggest threat to your relationship getting 'ruined' is the two of you. No one here can decide if your relationship is over or not, but if you are seriously considering dumping a guy because you see possible issues for the two of you in the future then you are playing a cowards game.
I can list a dozen problems any couple will have to face together in the future! Those problems are always there for every couple. Sometimes it's disinterest or distance, sometimes it's money or religion or kids.
But if you want to dump him if over this possible issue, that to me is a sign that you don't really care about this relationship that much. The fact that he'll just 'understand' if you dump him is equally odd. Breaking up hurts! People rarely just shrug it off with a "Oh, well, that's okay. I understand." if someone they deeply care for is giving them the boot.
Relationships can be hard work. Relationships can survive problems. If the two of you really care enough about each other to try and make this work, I'd suggest you start talking about what it is you both want and expect from your relationship. Otherwise, your apathy is going to kill it very quickly.
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"If I do break up with him, he'll understand.". Hmm that doesn't sound too good.
It's back to our old friend Mr.Talk. All you can do is bring up the subject with your guy, see if there's a reason for it (i.e.: you're both under stress right now) or if you've just come to the end of the line. Sounds like if you did break up it'd be pretty amicable so if you can't sort things out maybe try being just friends and see if that's better for both of you or if you realise you miss what you had. Good luck.x
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