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verbal abuse
for probably about a year now my dad has been screaming at my brother and i for the stupidest reasons and at this point im pretty sure that he is verbally abusing us (not physically or sexualy) like on friday i was going to my friends party and i told him to get ready in 10 minutes....7 minutes later i gave him a three minute warning and then when 10 minutes came up and i wanted to leave, he started screaming at me that i didn't tell him that we were leaving in there minutes i mean i was crying to death and he was about to take me to this party, but saying no you didnt tell me your a liar!!! but screamed it and he started making this whole drag about it and i started to cry my mom was right there on my side, she was mad at him for actually going through all this crap. So then i waited by the car and at this point i didn't want to go but my mom offerend to take me there, while my dad came outside and my mom was getting her phone he apporached me like he was going to hit me or strangle me i started hyperventalating and crying but he didn't he then went around and went to his car and left. A couple of hours later he came home before i did from the party that my mom took me. But a second time if he makes a statement to my brother, my dad would scream why didn't you answer me!!! answer me now!! and it wasn't a question or anything, and when he screamed it i was in shock for about three hours cause i was just really scared i talked about it with my friend shes like talk to him, but i did and he just argues with me. So on monday i want to talk to the school psycologist but i think there going to make a huge deal about it. but do you think based on what i've told you hes being verbally abusive.
note- he does this at least twice a week
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well i wouldnt call it verbal abuse unless he is threating but he is hurting u and and making you cry so yes it is a form of verbal abuse. Your dad loves you but he may just have anger problems maybe he thinks yelling is the only way to get through to you that may be the only way he can get his thoughts and his feelings out,Tell your dad hpw you feel tell him you are scared to talk to him and to tell him whats going on with you because of what he might say and that youre scared because oneday it might turn form verbal abuse to physical abuse. let him know that you love him with all your heart but you want him to talk to you rationaly and calm instead of loud because it frightens you and your brother. tell him that you want to have a wonderful relationship with him but that you cant if he wont stop yelling at you. and you should try to do what he asks you to do instead of giving him the time limit and expecting him to follow thru. you should give him the time limit then ask him calmly after the limit may be is done. be respectful and dont argue back because that is making the situation worse. ALso show him that you truely love him and will do anything to make him proud and make him happy. his is your father and you should confront him and make your relationship better so that all of you can be happy and get along. and if that doesnt work maybe try conseling just you and your dad so that your relationship can get better but both of you have to be willing to try. Good luck to you
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Is he drinking? You don't have to answer me, but it sounds like he has some intense and irrational rage and alcohol or something could be behind that. I do think that you need to talk to the school psychologist, yes there is always a risk of this becoming a huge deal and that is scary I'm sure, but right now, so is your home life. He needs help with his anger. Living in a house like that is only going to get worse. You don't need that. Good luck. Its going to be ok.
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okay. well. all parents are kinda like that. but obvisouly your dad is takeing it to the next level. this is going to sound stupid but try really hard to like not agure with him. just sorta do it. cause i mean honestly there is really nothing you can do about it. unless you convience your mom to get a devorse. which we both know is slitely impossible. but what you CAN do it talk to your mom and HIM about it. the school conseriler will just call CPS [[ child protect service]] and like take you away from your parents. but like im sure if you kindaa just goo along with your dad.. like if he says WHY WONT U ANSWER ME just be like ohh im sorry what did u ask. or if hes like YOU NEVER SAID THAT. be like i didnt? oh im sorry i thought i did, but heyy can you take me to the party now.
ya know. but you really need to talk to your mommy about it. and together yall can work out a solution.
=)) sorry if i didnt help.
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Um well, a little bit. If he's telling you or your brother that you're worthless, that you don't mean anything, that you should've never been born, things like that. Then it's def. verbal abuse. He could be really stressed out and taking it out on you guys, you never know. You could go to the school counselor, or social worker, to talk to them, get weekly meetings so they can help you. They wont get anyone involved, unless you become suicidal, or the abuse becomes physical or sexual. Just tell them, you want help dealing with it, but that he's just yelling a lot, it's not an emergency where they need to get DCF involved or anything like that. I'm pretty sure you'll be fine, I saw a social worker in high school to deal with my mom's verbal abuse, and it was strictly confidential.
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