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i want to go back
Helow.... I'm a 18 year old girl and I live now in the Philippines and I used to live in Holland because my mum married a Dutch man and he brought us there.. After few months there, I made lots of nice friends.. I didn't have homesick anymore because people there are always nice to me.. I really enjoyed my life there.. But my father thought that we should go back in the Philippines.. But he stayed there because of his work.. My problem is ... I wanna go back in Holland.. I miss my friends, and I really enjoyed my 1 year and 3 months of staying there.. I convinced my dad to go back there, also my sister convinced him but he doesn't want to because of financial problem (he said), but we don't ask money to him.. we don't spend much money, we're contented on allowance that he used to give to us, besides we're only four in the house.. So i don't think that it's the problem.. and besides he's not a poor guy.., he's just afraid to lose his money i think.. Please help me, how would i convince him to go back in Holland?
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i think you should talk to your mom about it. if she married him she probably knows him better than you do and can convince him
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I have to ask you this question only to make you think of other reasons besides "money" as an issue for your not being able to return to Holland. My question may have nothing to do with the real reason either. Just open your mind to other reasons besides "money". People use "money" all the time as a cover up for something they don't want to do. Find THAT reason. But, my question to you is this: How were your parents getting along before your return to the Philippines? If they weren't getting along it could be that he feels you younger members of the family are better off with your mother. I have an idea. You are now 18 years old. Since you lived in Holland for over a year are you a Dutch citizen? Are you planning on going to school? Or, are you considering going to work. Either way you ask your father if you could come to Holland and stay with him on a temporary basis. If you want to go to school tell him that you want to find a good school and you will live on campus. If you want to go to work you can ask him if you can stay with him long enough to find a job and place to live. Last, but not least, you could, on your own, go to Holland and find your own place, maybe stay with a friend for a while. Then get yourself a job or into school on your own. There are all kind of ways to get back to Holland with or without him. Just open yourself up to other possibilities. Talk to friends, shop, clerks, policemen, or anyone (including your father)you can in the Philippines. Get the energy out there that you want to go back to Holland. Once you do that you will find that ideas and alternate routes will be coming to you. You can make this happen all on your own. I wish you the best of luck in your quest!
Namaste,
LULABELLE
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Hi there,
I really feel for you being in this situation.
So you have spoken to your Dad so knows how you feel, have you tried talking to your Mum? How does she feel? Would she like to go back?
If he is not a poor guy and he wants to go back then I don't see why he is not!
I know you have already told him but tell him again how you are feeling and that you really want to go back home.
Tell him that if it is the money that he is worried about then you and your sister are prepared to get jobs to help cover the costs (if you are able to).
If, like you said, he is not a poor man then I don't think money is the real reason he does not want to go back. It may be worth trying to get to the bottom of why he REALLY doesn't want to go.
I really wish you luck and I hope that you manage to work out some compromise so that you are all happy!
Take Care
Mel xx
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