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i am so confused again
hey i am 17 and my boyfriend is confusing me. last night on msn we were talking and then he was not drunk but tipsy, and he tells me how he fels when he is drinking. well i told him that my friend patrice called me and was wanting me to hang out and he goes well you dont want to do nothing with me on new years? and i said i want to see you so bad and i havent seen patrice in over two years. he thinks i am going to hang with guys. i told him no i wasnt. well he must have been talking to a few other people and wrote me and said srry wrong person. well he writes me again saing i am going to drink with anna away. i might not do it yet. and he was talking to this girl anna on the phone. well i dont care it is just he says you dont need a guy like me and i said why and he goes huh? i said well r u wanting me to break up with you he goes no maybe it is the other way around. i said so you want to break up with me? he goes no i dont and he just kept on well he says you go with patrice and i will go with anna. he was invited to a party but he said if he goes bad habits will happen. so i dont know whats going on i am so confused. i am helpless at the point and i told him to call me when he is sober and i still havent heard from him. i dont know why new years is a bad time fir me. can anyone help me please?
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You'll never get a straight answer from someone whose been drinking/doing drugs. Period. Even if they say what they "really really really" mean, it's likely to be an answer so loaded down with emotion and "thinking about it too much" that if they could rethink the answer when they were sober they'd probably change their mind.
With that said: Reading between the lines it sounds like your boyfriend likes having a girlfriend, but wants a way out so he can do his own thing. If he's like 87% of the guys I've known who've been in relationships, he thinks that if he can put the *blame* for the break up on you (not necessarily in a mean way), or if he can convince you, himself, and all of your friends, that you need/ want/ deserve someone else, then as far as he's concerned, you'll all feel good about the split because it'll seem like it was what was best.
He needs to understand that while he's important to you, your life doesn't revolve around him. You have other friends, like Patrice, and you have every right to want to hang out with them with him or without him. He needs to respect that and to trust you when you tell him what you're doing. And you need to be able to trust him when he tells you what he's doing, too. And if you think you might not be able to trust what he's telling you about where he is or who he's with-- maybe a split isn't such a bad idea after all...
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You are the one ditching him on New Years. If I were him I'd be pissed and want to go find a party somewhere else too. I am sure this "Anna" girl is just a tool to make you jelous because he is mad.
Why can't you all just hang out together? That would be the simple solution.
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Call him when you think he has sobered up and demand some answers.
Do you know who Anna is? It doesn't sound to me as if he needs to be drinking with another girl if he is dating you. Especially since he is so easily confused when he is just tipsy. :)
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