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how do you deal with crazy friends?
right now i am going out with a guy that one of my best friends dated, and i mean DATED. i started to like him like months before i told her, before i really told anyone because he is one of my close friends too. they dated for a year and a half and broke it off this past june. at the end of november he had a short relationship with another girl but that didn't work out. when i had a really good feeling that something was going to happen between us i told her and she told me that i was crazy for being afraid to tell her before, but she was really cranky and jealous over his last girlfriend, i it's think because she broke up with him and hasn't dated since. but now we date and it's only been for 2 weeks now and all i have gotten from her are dirty looks, whispers to friends and mean comments about him. what can i do to get her to stop acting the way that she said she wouldn't act in the first place?
sorry that it's kinda long.
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dont worry! i went through the SAME thing. i was friends with this girl and she dated a boy then i started to date him. she was so mad that she told him rumors about me, but he didnt beleive it. So we became closer. Then she told me secrets about him. i did the same thing. then i spread rumors about her and my boyfriend took the rap for it. So tell her she is being stupid! They boke up and it is over GET OVER IT! and if she doesnt want to be your friend any more then start wispering things about her!
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a year and a half is a long tim enad even if she says she doesnt care, she does. its kind of wrong for you to date him. your not supposed to date friends ex's. esp if they were together that long.
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She's obviously jealous that you're going out with him. If they went out for a year & a half, I don't think it was the best thing to go out with him in the first place because she would still like him after that long time. Even if you asked if it was okay, your friend will never be okay with it. I'd be heart broken if my close friend did that to me. If you care about your friend more than the guy then you need to dump him & tell her how sorry you are & try to fix your friendship,but if you pick the guy over your friend, than your friendship with her is gone.
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well to tell you there going to say im over him because thats just the way people are but your not to post to go out with someone that your friend went out with for a year wat are you thinking would you like that and i know you would probaly say yes because you would wanna be on your side, i would but you know no deep inside you would not so i think you need to brake up with him and say sorry no offense
elena
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First of all, obviously, your friend still cares a lot. They went out for a year and a half! She'll never admit it though because why would she want to look desperate enough to care about her ex-boyfriend's girlfriends?
You should never have to ask your friend if it's ok for you to go out with her ex because the no is a given. If they went out for more than a year, it's practically a sin to date him. Even if she found a boyfriend, it will still be a really sticky situation and it's going to be even after you break up with this guy. The damage is already done but you need to start repairing it immediately. I hate to tell you this but, you'll need to say bye bye to the guy or they kiss your friendship farewell. You know the rule, chicks before dicks.
Sorry. Good luck <33
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