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I need a third opinion.
I'm a 16/f and I've liked this guy for 4 years now, ever since one of my friends dated him. Just in the past 8 months we've been talking and spending time together. Around August we stopped talking until just recently. I asked my friend for advice on what to say to him because I'm super shy. But now since it's Winter Break and he isn't busy with school or work much. So the other night I went over to his house. He kind of pressured me into having sex, I'm not complaining or anything because I wanted my first time to be with him but I just didn't imagine it being then. My friend keeps telling me that's the only reason he talks to me is because he wants to have sex, since we didn't talk for a long time until the topic of sex came up. I'm really confused with him. When I'm with him it's almost like I'm memorized by him and make myself believe that he has feelings for me. But on the other hand I can see where my friend is coming from when she says he's using me, she's my best friend and doesn't want to see me hurt. What do you think? I don't want to be someone he only calls when he's horny. I'm not that type of girl.
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well i would go with your friends opinion, shes lookin out for you n best friends know best trust me. it doesnt matter how much you like this guy, if you dont want to have sex then say NO n if he doesnt want anything but that then you should just say your better than that n you have to respect your self for that. guys are not worth the trouble, esp one who wants to do it n then go tell all his lil friends n then they all think of you as a hoe or somethin which is not true at all. so im sayin dont do it if you dont want to, wait till your n love n know it for a fact. hope i helped n good luck
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You need to trust your gut and start listening to what this guy really says to you.
If you truly think you are just making yourself believe he cares for you, then you already have your answer right there. Start to pay attention to what he is *really* saying and not just hearing what you want to hear.
If you don't want to be that kind of girl, then don't be, stop right now and tell him why you have, that you don't regret having sex you just want to step back and go slower. You have built a fantasy around this guy that he can't possible live up to, maybe he isn't using you, but 'till you clue in you'll never know.
Best friends aren't always right, but they aren't often wrong, so be careful and take care of yourself.
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Most guys use girls. I'm in the same situation, only the sex hasn't actually happened yet. He tells me he likes me and stuff but we only talk about sex. I can't tell if he really means it when he says he likes me, or not. But in your case, maybe the guy likes you and at the same time, wants to have sex with you. As far as a relationship with him goes, as long as you're giving him what he wants without being "together", he most likely won't ask you out. By this I mean, if sex is what he wants, he's getting it without being your boyfriend so chances are he'll want to remain friends. Sorry if this doesn't make sense to you. You need to ask him straight up if he likes you or not. Tell him not to lie to you. Say "Not that this affects anything that we do together, but do you like me?" that way he thinks you can still have sex if he doesn't like you. If he just says "i like you" then, he might not be telling the truth. You should be able to tell.
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I agree with t0xicparadise. If you think that he is only using you for sex, then don't even bother for him. He's totally not worth it & you definatly need to find someone better. You have all these feelings for him & he's just thinking about sex. A guy like that definatly doesn't deserve a girl like you. Move on. =)
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well, maybe you should just simply tell him tht u really like him, but just not ready to hav sex. if he doesn't understand tht, then blow him off, hes not worth it if, hes just talking to you bcuz he wants sex. hope i helped!
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No one on this site really knows the guy.
So no one can really tell you if he is using you or not.
But think of this; does he MOSTLY/ONLY talk to you when he's horny and wants to get you in bed?
If he does then most likely he is using you.
Also would your best friend lie to you about something like that?
Don't talk to him for a day or two and let him come to you. And when he does if he pressures you into having sex then most likely he is using you.
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