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I dont know if im wasting my time......
First i wanna say im only 16 but as you may think im moving to fast and i shouldnt be worried so much about guys i grew up really fast and i have been through a lot so im very mature and i know what i want. So please dont tell me to just walk away because of my age thanks. Well i have been with my boyfriend since january 16th of 2005 so almost 1 yr. He is my first love and i do want to stay with him. He is 18 when i got with him he had got out of a 2 1/2 yr relationship which the girl was bad to him and he had a son with her she was only 16 and there baby was 4 months when i first met him. I am very close with his son he even calls me mom. I dont tell him to say that though. My boyfriends family all loves me and my family likes him alot to. At first things were to good to be true but then one day his cousin who is 16 tried doing sexuall things with me when we were at his house and my boyfriend had left to the store. I told his cousin to stop and he did but after wards i didnt know if i shoudl hide it or tell? Well i let a day go by but then the next day it all came out but not from me it came from someone else in the house who was there and i told but i never thought they would tell. His cousin said nothing happened and i told the truth but my boyfriend just kept crying and was so hurt so we broke up and i felt so bad even though i didnt do anything. After that i tried to be really nice and show him i care and we continued to stay friend and we talked everyday and we still were sexually active but we werent together. Well we were both kinda mean to each other because i wanted to be together and he said he didnt. I didnt understand why. Well he then started to go out every weekend and he would call me in the middle of the night. He treated me like i didnt matter. He would say he didnt know me to his friends but then he would take me around his family i was so confused? Still his babys mother had no idea about me and she was always begging to be with him and she was really mean to him to but i couldnt say or do anything because i didnt want him to be away from his son and i wanted to see him to so i said it didnt matter that she didnt know but really it hurt me. Well a little after july we got back together and things got better thank god and we became more nice and close and he stopped going out so much. But still the babys mother didnt know and i hated it so i kept telling him and he got mad well someone told her and it all came out she was mad because i was around her son and because she probley wanted to still be with him but when all this happened i found out he was slepping with her back in may which hurt me bad. He admited it to me and he did it 2 times but she had no idea about me. She then talked to me and things got better we got along but then she would see how close her son was to me and she didnt like it so now she is keeping the baby away from us and his family. My boyfriend sometimes brings up what happened with his cousin to throw it in my face. He dosent know how to ask for things nice or to let things go. He always wants to make me feel bad and make me think i didnt everything but i know i didnt. I try to tell him i love him and i want to get along so where should i start i dont know what to do because sometimes i want to give up and leave him but i dont want to leave his son and family and i love my boyfriend so much. I see him alot but when i do we fight mostly so it dosent make it fun. Thank you i hope you can give me some advice!
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Let it go. Forcing yourself into this relationship is a waste of your time. No matter how much love you put into it, you're only going to get hate out in return. I can't believe it's not any clearer to you: leave him.
You can try and patch things up all you want, but you're never going to fix everything, and you are just going to wind up miserable.
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wow that was really long! okay well he seems like the kind of guy who has made mistakes in his life but knows that he has to deal with the consequenses. you seem like the kind of couple that fights about everything but works it out because you love eachother. you just have different opinions thats all. opposites attract right?!?!?! i think that if you guys have come this far it would be a nightmare to throw it all away. i say for the time being do whatever it takes to be with that guy!
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I know you don't want me to tell you that you're moving too fast but i'm going to. You're only 16 years old hun.. you shouldn't be sexually active at all yet. I know you say you're mature and all but no you're not mature enough for sex. It can wait. If you're getting involved in this child's life, then if you breakup again its gonna hurt him too. I think You're boyfriend is too old for you and is expecting a certain relationship from you that you aren't ready for. I would say step out of the situation before something happens. His cousin could try to put the moves on you again, or you could even end up pregnant. You guys always fight anyways so what's the point? You'll probably rate me a 1 but I dont care, because I really hope you stop being sexually active at this young age.
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I think you should tell him, if hes treating you badly a lot and you guys fight mostly but you dont want to break up or just move on because you know it'll be hard tell him exactly how you feel and everything you just told me and if you already tried that, it might be better for you to little by little get over him and not fall for him even more so if you realize you do need to break up it wont hurt as much
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You love him & he loves you so why would you just want to throw everything you guys had away? I don't think you would. I understand that sometimes things go bad and you just feel like you can't take it anymore. Trust me you can. I think that he's very confused right now. He doesn'm seem to know what he wants & what's right for him. It was very selfish of him to sleep with that girl behind your back. It's not her fault or anything, but I think it's very rude that she won't let you see her son. I know she is his mother & doesn't want anyone else to take that away from her, but there is nothing she can do about it if he loves you too. I think that the best thing for you & him to do is to take a little break. I mean still talk, but give each other some space. The more you see each other & talk about this, you'll fight & you won't get anything out of that. You guys will always love each other no matter what & it's normal for couples to argue but if you guys are meant to me together (which I think you are) everything will fall back in the right place. Talk to him & be friends. When you argue, ignore it. It's not worth for you to be upset. Visit his family & talk to that girl and let her know everything and that it's wrong if she won't let you see her son. It's not like you would take him away from her or anything & that you're there for her & the baby. His family still loves you and just because things between you & him might be a little shady right now doesn't mean you should push his family away because they still care about you.
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If a boy treats you badly when your with him and not with him then i think you should slow it down because your just gonna get more hurt! I know what its like to be with someone for a very long time and be in love and then it all crash right in front of my face and be used and cheated on! I think you should take some timeapart because he is also too old so hes not gonna be thinking the same things you might be thinking. Maybe deep down he does want to be with his babies mom and he's trying to give you excuses to leave him by always fighting with you and throwing things in your face are all signs
hope i helped i was speaking from experience and thought that might be better :)
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