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What's his problem?
A guy friend of mine just moved into his first house (that he owns and doesnt rent) in another state with his wife. His wife and him have a very rocky marriage and I was a little surprised when he told me this. They had to move up there for a job.
Well the last time I talked to him I asked him how he felt about the move. He didnt sound excited at all (which suprised me because in his email he made it sound like a big deal that it was their first home together). He sounded really depressed and all he said was "it's beautiful up there", but he didnt sound like he meant it.
I told him how well I was doing and how happy I was with my life and my new job. He didnt sound happy for me at all. We were talking on the phone and then he snapped "I have to go, and don't phone me on my cell anymore unless it's after 6".
Well that was over 6 weeks ago and he hasnt phoned me or emailed me since. I was pretty choked he would do that to me, I mean it's not my fault that he's unhappy for whatever reason.
So my question is, why would he take anything out on me and not his wife? I've been a really good friend to him and I don't think it's fair. Also, why would he sound so depressed if he was moving to his first real home?
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Sounds like maybe hes jealous and he may have taken it the wrong way maybe he took it as you were rubbing your happy life into his miserable one. Or maybe his wife has something to do with it. Plus when people are depressed they withdrawl and may not talk to anyone unless needed. So maybe you should call him and let him know your there.
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maybe he didnt want to move and he liked where he was at. and when people get upset they take it out on people that are helping them because it makes him feel better that your not happy too. i would just let him go for a little while a let him vent his anger. maybe try sending him a nice card for the holidays and then wait till after the holidays are over before you call him again. its pretty stressful moving esspecially around this time of year and everyone seams to get in bad moods.
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He snapped on "you" b/c u were the 'closest one to him'. Not meaning that 'physically'...but 'emotionally'. ESPECIALLY if he was having probs w/his decisions & you weren't with yours.
When things start to fail in our lives, we seem to HATE hearing about others Furtunates. It hurts us & makes us think that 'we' are doing something wrong & cant find simplistic (sp?) answers for them. We even do it as we get older, not even thinking that it is "childish". He couldnt tell you something negative about how things were going in his life, he just stayed 'hush' about it, but as soon as he heard how well YOU were doing, he couldn't take it..so he snapped.
Now he is not keeping in touch at all ? hmmm..sounds like someone should 'Grow up'.That is immature...insecure & selfish. Shame on him.
But DO wish him the best in your mind & hope that things have picked up for him.
It's all you can do...just to secure 'You'.
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