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^they hate me^
tonite i caused half of my family to hate me right now cuz i didnt wanna spend the night with my cousin so i didnt tell her they asked me to call my mom and see if me and my sisters could so i called her and asked hoping she would say no but she said yes so wen we got to my cousins i told them i was going home so my cousin and her mom got really mad at me and then i went over my other aunties house and then my cousin took me home but she got a call tellin her not to take me home because i was being something but she did anyway and wen i got home my mom got mad at me for not spending the night and i just wanted to stay home and i made up a reason why i didnt wanna spend the night i said because they always put stuff on my face but then they found out and called me a liar so now they hate me am i wrong?
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Lying is wrong. Besides that one mishap, NO, YOU'RE NOT "WRONG" about wanting to go home. You know how schools, and families, teach about peer pressure? Well, families can give a good dose of peer pressure too. If you didn't want to sleep over there and you wanted to go home, they all should've let you go home! WHo would it have hurt? No one!
Perhaps they took it personal, like you were saying you didn't like them or trust them enough to stay over, but that's ridiculous if they thought that. If they did, that's their insecurity, but please don't let it affect you!
Next time, be honest in the first place! That is probably the main reason they were truly upset. You led them on to believe that you wanted to stay, and were in agreement, by going along with them and calling your mom. That still doesn't give them an excuse for making you feel 'trapped'.
Now that you're in this situation, and you're affraid people hate you, here's my suggestion to help you clear things up. First, go to your mother, let her know you didn't want to stay in the first place, but didn't want to hurt their feelings, so you went along with it... how eventually, when you wanted to go home, you did make an excuse, but it was only because you felt trapped. You felt like no one would let you go home. Put it into your own words, just be entirely honest. Then, have a talk with your aunts and cousins. Apologize for not being straightforward in the first place, but let them know it's because you didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings, etc. I'm sure they don't "hate" you, and they shouldn't be upset anymore after a nice talk.
To reverse lies, go with the truth. This is really just a simple misunderstanding, and things could be much worse. Please, please be straightforward next time. Do not ever be affraid to say what you need to say, or let people know how you feel about something.
Also, always remember you are allowed to change your mind in life! Similar situations might come up later in life for you, but stay strong and don't let others sway you. Sure, people can give advice, let you know what they think, etc, but there's always a nice, decent, helpful, loving way of doing it. I'm rooting for you! :)
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