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would she?
One of my friends likes this guys and wants to date him, so we have all been trying to get them together. the thing is whenever we all go to the movies or whatever her best friend is always all over him. her best friend just got out of a relationship and is taking it pretty hard. lately she has been hanging out with my friend's crush (just her and him)
I was wondering whether anyone thinks that she would go for the guy. I mean normally i dont think she would, but she isnt in the best mental state. what do i do?
ps: the guy likes them both
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Thanks!!!
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i think she would go for him
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It appears that you have a situation where you have a guy who likes two girls, and both girls like him back to some extent. One seems to have a full blown crush, whereas the other is perhaps just interested short term in some attention or affection from a guy she finds attractive. The details aren't really important - the point is, they both want him and you've put yourself in the middle of it all.
You might think that it's bad of the friend who has only just got out of a relationship to be throwing herself towards this guy or that a relationship would never work out between them, and you may well be right, she probably wouldn't do this normally and it easily might not work out for the best. The problem is, it's not really your buisness to decide who can and can't date this guy. If he likes both of them, well, he's got to make the decesion of who to date for himself. It isn't your job to try to engineer a situation where he chooses the girl you think he's best suited to - he has to make the decesion himself, and if he chooses to date enter into a bad reltaionship with somebody on the rebound, well, that's his problem and not something you could or should attempt to prevent.
You could talk to the girl who has just broken up with her boyfriend about what she's doing - whether she realises her friend was hoping to date this guy, whether she's thought about the consequence for her friendship and whether she really sees this flirtation going somewhere. However, if she wants to persue it, you really can't stop her, and I would advise a hasty retreat.
At this stage the best thing to do is to have a quiet word with the girl who has just broken up with her boyfriend about whether she's really thought everything through, then leave them to it and be there for your friend if everything ends badly. It's all you can do, as something that is between this guy and the two girls about who dates who, and between the two girls themselves about their friendship and some boundaries they possibly need to set up. Intefering futher will only cause more hurt: just be there as a friend when you are needed.
All the best.
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It depends on who reserved the guy first if your best friend liked the guy first then you count on hookin them two up first because she was there first so she beats your other friend to the jump.
As for your other firend just gettin out of a relationship and she's takin it hard if she's takin it so hard then why is she so press to get back into a relationship and if she really does want to forget about her last bf try hookin her up with another guy that you know and try to convince her to go out with him because that's not right how your bff is wantin to go with him for a while and then your other bff comes up and wants to get verbally contacted with him so take my advise.
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Okay, no offense, but this answer comes naturally. How about, don't let her invite her best friend, or just don't go wit hthem. I like to call it the shark tank method, for multiple reasons, the fact that I like sharks being one of them, but also it's a do or die method. If it works, it works well, if it doesn't then you get eaten, not literally. Basically, send the two of them alone to the movie. Really simple. If all else fails, send them to a strip club. No but really, don't tell anyone I told you to if you do end up doing it. If there parents objec,t then just tell them that the strip club is really just your secret hideout/strip club. And if it is, I want to go. No really. My igloo is a lonely place.
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Look, girls can be ugly(on inside), cruel, and bitchy(excue my language). there fore i really think she would. just tell your friend that you have her back on this. i mean, if she was a TRUE friend she wouldnt hanging out with her best friends crush and being all over him in the first place. i REALLY think you should talk to your friends best friend because from the way I hear things she not doing her job as a friend. just be there for your friend when she needs you. i hope i helped you and good luck.
♥ Leah
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