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Please help me... I don't know what to do...
Regards,
First of all, let me clear a thing... I'm fairly in the air... I had passed a hard day and for now, I'm exteremly confused, like i have never been before... I just need some help, adivse or anything that could be any of help...
My story begins from two months ago. when I actually decided to start a new PLP type relationship with a girl in my university for the first time in my life... we both are studying electronics engineering. I just have two term to finish the
lessons, while she has 4 terms to go... I dont know if these informations do any help, but in any way, I'm trying to be precise here...
Before this, I had absolutely no idea in dating with girls. I had never speaked with someone because of my FEELINGs. so when I came to this situation, I started to read some books. I learned a lot of things, but the most interesting, yet frightening part of them was the sentence " Hunters, Move FAST !!"... it becames the QUEEN of my mind...
I started some basics like intense gaze, making eye contact, giving a nod, doing body language, and sometimes, a very short smile... I was unexperienced, but I think that I was doing fine... she usually returned my gaze with a one second look and when I turned back and looked around, she did the same... after following this routine for a month or so, I decided to make the first conversation. I had nothing special to say, but I just wanted to let her know that I'm interested in her. I was still frightened from that sentence, you know... and that caused a lot of trouble.
One day, all of a sudden, I walked beside her in the corridor ( she was walking with one of her friends ) and asked her to listen to my words for a minute. she stoped walking and looked into my eyes. I become blind. i lost my words and started to say bunkum. I told her that I want to say something, but I can't. because it's a little bit hard for me for the first time... she looked again into my eyes and when she was leaving, she said that "it's not necessary to say anything"... i become fed up.
I had her phone number from before. so I wrote an sms and told her how much I love her... I told that this was all the things that I wanted to tell her in the first approach. but there was no reply.
after a week or so, I wrote another sms. romantic and warm. I wrote that I want to give it another try and I asked for her approval. this time, my sms didn't remained unanswered. she replied, but what a reply. she said that i must stop acting like this... she said that she is not interested AT ALL, and my previous SMS has no value for her. she also asked me to stop sending another sms... well, as I know myself, I don't give up easily. but this time, i felt that it's better to finish the game with one last try. i wrote another sms and I said that i feel sorry for acting unseasoned. i also wrote that if she give no answer, I assume the game finished. easy to guess. NO REPLY.
I did what i said. I started to forget all the things we left behind. but I couldn't resolve one thing... if she was not interested AT ALL, why she returned my gazes ? why she flipped for me, when standing a few meters away ? why she was always in my sight, wherever i was ? why she was doing womanish body language all the time ? in class, in yard, in everywhere ?
I couldn't figure that out. so after a month, I sent her another sms. I didn't act like before. I didn't give out my power. I wrote that I must speak with her. I told that the way how we do this is not important. I just want to say some untold and nothing more or less. 3 days after sending this unanswered sms, we participated in an common class. when the class has been finished, there were 6 person remaining in the class. me and 2 friends of mine, and she, and 2 friends of her... the situation was not suitable. so I left the class. but she remained. I stayed beside the class for almost 30 minute. but she didn't came out. so I assumed this as a passport and entered the class...She was sitting alone !! I started up with some ordinary words,but I felt that she's not interested at all. so i did a trick. I asked her that what I should do for now ? I asked this with smile. I tried to be funny and cooky. fortunately she looked at me and said "what ?" she apparently couldn't hide her smile... and we started a long talk... in the middle of conversation, she said that she doesn't want to become friend with a boy. I replied asap, "but I didn't asked you that". she smiled. I continued " what if I ask you to help me on a project?" and she replied with smile " I never ever participate on a project with a boy"... after a minute or two, I asked her if this is a type of one-way love and she said that "There is no DOUBT"... I gazed at her and asked the same thing again. she looked down and said nothing... in the end, she said that I better forget all the things. I asked her for a logical reason, but she had nothing to say. she just called it "something Personal". and we ends up like this... I said goodbye and left the class...
Now, I don't understand. what all this means ? is she still examining me ? Do I did something wrong ? do I have to forget all the things ? should I continue the same things again and again and again ? I'm pretty confused...
Please excuse my bad english. I'm just looking for an advise. I have never wrote a novel like this...
Thanks for all your generosity and attention in advance.
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What a story! Ok, i am a girl and i understand her. I think she really doesn't know what to do. Maybe she doesn't want something with someone this period. But when we avoid someone we are always with others! We don't stay in class... And something else. Smiling and looking at you are good things! But, she said you that she doesn't want neither a friend nor a boyfriend. That means what she says. Well, she might likes you ok. But she doesn't want a relationship right now.
What you should do is to let her. Don't send sms and don't talk to her. Let her a little bit because some girls are like that:When you show them that you don't like them they want you because you make the difference(beautiful girls).
And i think that she needs time, space... Let her and see what she does. Coming where you are?Looking at you? Smiling at you? Then tell her sth. If not, let her and find an other one.Come on! There are a lot of girls out there!I hope i helped...
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WOW. long story. no offense. if we girls smile at boys- it could mean either one of two things. we admire them or we think of them as just friends. Don't keep pestering her with notes/letters/etc. Give her some space, if she begins to show up wherever you are- she's somewhat interested. But if she avoids you all the same- she just needs some space.
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