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"teenage years are SUPPOSED to be spent looking for BRIDESMA
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sooo Ive been best friends with this girl for about 3 and a half years. I can tell her everything, and i mean, everything. I used to be able to trust her with everything, and when she said " i promise" .. she meant it. Ever since she got her new boyfriend about 8 months ago though, the boy (lets call him "JOn"). has completely taken over. I feel like there is no more rooom for "jaime friendship,".. and that JOn has taken over my spot in her life. We used to hang out like every other day (about), and now , its gotten down to once or twice a every two months. Kinda sad, I think. :(
I dunno.. its adding so much stress to my life. Ive tried explaining to her how much she means to me and everything, but she just doesnt get it. I know this may sound sad.. but I love this girl a lot.. I mean who wouldnt love their bffe?... but i hate the way she treats me. Boys are only in youre life for so long.. but girlfriends can last a lifetime, and i dont think she unserstands that. (notice the subject "your teenage years are supposed to be spent looking for bridesmaids, not grooms" .... Yes, I realize that life gets more complicated as you get older.. and now that she is 16, she has a job .. where she works everyday... Literally, EVERYDAY after school and work though, she talks and talks with her boyfriend on the phone alll night long, and if i call, guess who she hangs up with? YUp, me. I know this may just sound like jealousy, and it is kinda.. but its gotten more than that. To top off things, her boyfriend used to be MY best GUY friend for about 2 years.. and now i completely cant stand him. I honestly, I wish he would just move to a diff state. LIterally. When i am around them two , I cant stand it. They only care about their realtionship. I think that it is plain RUDe to sit there at a table at lunch with your bffe and boyfriend.. and sit there, and hug and kiss him , and ignore your bffe. HOw awkward it is for me. I feel liek shit constantly, but when im alone with my bffe.. and her boyfriend isnt arounf we have THE BEST of times, and cant stop laughing. Its like we give eachother a natural high. Im just so sad and depressed now that it feels like ive been "replaced" though... Any suggestions on what i should do??
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i went through this same situation last year. i talked to my girlfriend and she totally understood and ended up apologizing. tell her that u really care about her and want to be friends like you used to be. tell her that you wish she would "lay off" the kissing and hugging with her boyfriend and pay a little more attention to you. i really hope i helped you! good luck! <3 <3
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you have to understand that she still loves you very much. This is sure. But try to understand her. She might thinks that she has found the boyfriend of her life and that she loves him that much and she doesn't want to lose him. I can see how you feel now but i think that the best thing you could do is to talk to your friend. Apart from explaining her how important she is to you tell her how you feel. That you feel like being replaced. I am sure she will understand you. This is the best solution because nobody else can know exactly what is going on. Tell her that you care about her and that you understand how much she loves her boyfriend but explain her your opinion about your friendship... You have to do this.
But not overdo this. Understand that she is different and that she wants this boyfriend. She doesn't want to lose him. Right? And understand that we have to be open mind and accept other people too. Otherwise sometime somehow you will get bored...
P.S. i hope i helped. Before half a year i had a bf and my friend told me that she feels alone and i understood her. Your bffe will understand you too.
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