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Friend is afriad of the homeless.
This a strange sort of etiquette question that has been bothering me from a while now…
I have a close friend and we live in a large metropolitan city. Whenever we are walking on the street she will do absolutely anything to walk as far away as possible from a homeless person. This really grates my nerves.
If we are walking side by side she will move all the way over to the curb, even if it means crossing in front of me in order to be 6 or 7 feet away from the homeless person (and a few feet any from me as well, since I continue to walk in a straight line). She will move back to me after they are a few feet behind us. I find this unbearably rude and downright heart breaking. She often tries to convince me too cross the street if she can see a person down the road on our side.
Now if they were yelling and screaming I would understand, but these are unfortunate souls who are simply huddled against buildings for warmth.
This is really upsetting me but some of my friends say it is just her irrational fear and I should respect it. But it makes me not want to go out with her, as we live in the core and pretty much walk everywhere. Am I wrong to be upset and/or how can I make her stop this?
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you should be upset b/c they are just nice people with money.introduce here to one so she can see how nice they are
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I don't think that you are wrong to be upset, but I think that you should go a little carefully on how you tell her. I am a little like your friend: in Britain we have a magazine sold by homeless people- I buy one every week, then spend the rest of the week trying to dodge the other sellers!
Seriously though, just say gently to her that you think it unnecessary to take such drastic means-you could even, if she really bugs you, shadow her as she does her wild swoop through the streets-that would be funny, yet probably piss her off enough to make her ask you why you do it. Take the discussion on from there....
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to be onest wioth you my teacher was talkin to us about this today.. and if i were you i wouldnt really pay attention to your friend or the homeless guy. personally when i am walkin alone i try doing the same thing. yea i know i should feel sorry for them because they dont have a home but think about it in america education is free if they wanted to amke soemthing for themself they could have finished highschool and got some kind of schoolaship and gone to college except they decided to mess up there life for what so ever reason.. yea i noe this is off the subject ur askin about but i just had to let it out. what i would do is talk to your friend about it. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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Hmm.. thats sorta weird. Maybe talk to her next time you are polanning to go out. Tell her that homeless people will not harm her, and they are just helpless because they dont have the money to get a home or nice clothes to get a job, and they are basically stuck being homeless unless enough people help them. And if it still continues, warn her that you wont walk with her if it continues.
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It is a probably a bit of fear for her.
Talk to her about it.
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tell her that she should not be afraid of them. you are right, if they are acting strange you should back away a little, but if they are just sitting there doing no harm there is no reason for her to step away. just let her see that they are just people in the world trying to survive and that there is nothing wrong with that and she may calm down around them. and sorry about "my" first answer... apparently my friend has been getting on my account and answering questions.
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everyone has their own oppinion on things, you cant force your friend to change her oppinion but you can tell her how you feel about what it is that she is doing, explain to her that you find it insulting. and ask her why she is the way she is. you cant really do anything else. hope this helped a little bit xxluceexx
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