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is this normal
i've been having a really off week, and today was the worst ever for me [i'm a guy btw]. i guess you can say that everyone knows me, and i'm not too bad company. today was really bad for me, I felt depressed. a lot of my guy friends noticed right away something was wrong, because i'm usually the one to make the first weird comment or try to make a joke out of things - but i do know when to stop. anyways, teachers too noticed, and everyone said that it was noticeable that something was wrong with me, and that it made them feel bad too when i was around. is that normal, like does that usually happen to you guys or with your friends? its not like i'm thinking about giving up on life, but any suggestions to get my mind off of it and feel better- talking about it hasn't seemed to help... thanks - will rate good.
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Don't woory about it man.
I get the same thing about once every two months or something.
They say they are worried?
about what?!
that i look different?
since when do they care about me?
Are they afraid that i am goanna get psycho?
we always hear the story but this it ever actually happen?
Don't talk about it.
they will say alot of crap and they will start to treat you different like you have some weird disease or something.
to feel better,
1 ignore them
2 listen to some music
3 get some sleep after exams
that is it
If what is worrying you is what I think it is, just confirm my suspiscion. I cured myself but it took a while.
Cj
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Well as we grow up we have more stress and u need more sleep and life just plain old gets harder..i have the same problem. Just try and relax, get more sleep. Dont let what other people effect u just try and be u!
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I'm really sorry that you've had an "off week" and that today seemed so bad. Feeling depressed is just the pits.
Obviously you're usually in good spirits or at least you show that side to your friends and teachers more than you show any side that may not be all happy and up. I've noticed that when I'm depressed and people keep commenting on it that I almost get more depressed because 1) I'm not thrilled that anyone noticed, and 2) I usually can't just snap out of it. Did I understand you correctly that people were saying to you that they were feeling bad (read: depressed) when you were around because you were depressed? I mean, were they telling you that they felt bad FOR you or BECAUSE of you? If the answer is the latter, I'm really bugged at these people. Sure, having a friend who is down and out around you may indeed bring you down a little, but there is NO reason to announce to the depressed person that he or she is making you feel bad! That's just insensitive and will more than likely make the depressed person feel even MORE depressed! So, how did you feel when these folks said that to you? I bet you felt worse. Almost like you're SUPPOSED to be entertaining all the time. Like you can't have a bad day because they all depend on you to make their day. Well, tough. You have the right to have your bum days, weeks, months, whatever and your friends (and especially your teachers) should be very sympathetic and understanding. Unfortunately that doesn't always happen because people don't know how to handle things when others are depressed, especially those who are usually the ones to cheer up everyone else. And, it often seems like no one really knows what to say. "Gosh, you've been the one who always makes ME feel better. What am I supposed to do now that you're not feeling great? I don't know what to do. You're the one that's good at that," etc., etc. Wow, that puts a lot of pressure on YOU. And believe me, that doesn't help a depressed mood.
OK, most people suffer from some sort of depression from time to time and it usually goes away by itself. Sleep deprivation will only exascerbate the problem. Not eating right will do the same thing. Having a "series of events and things happening to [you]" WHILE dealing with school issues can certainly cause and/or make the situation worse. Have you been able to deal with some of these events and the things that have happened to you? Has there been any resolution to any of these things? If you're still dealing with these things, then that is probably not making it any easier to come up from the darkness of your depression. I know you said that talking hasn't seemed to help. But who have you been talking to? Do you feel comfortable talking to your parents, or one parent? How about a close and trusted friend (male or female)? What about your school counselor? Maybe you just need to let off some steam to a stranger...like someone on this site. Sometimes talking to strangers about specifics can help because 1) they will usually be more objective with their comments, and 2) they don't know you and you don't run such a high risk of feeling "judged." I certainly would be more than willing to hear you out and try to talk with you about the specifics of these events and things that happened to you IF you want to do that and IF you think these things are the main root of your present state of mind. You can always e-mail me at soysusana@verizon.net IF you want to get some baggage off your chest.
The last thing I'll say is that you probably needn't worry about this presently short period of time that you've been depressed. Again, we all go through different degrees of depression for varying reasons. However, if you find that the depression doesn't lift soon, then I would strongly encourage you to tell your parents and seek help by way of a professional counselor. There are staggering statistics about teens suffering from depression. Often these teens are the "life of the party," and no one knows that something is eating away at them inside out. I am NOT saying that you are one of the "statistics." What I AM saying is that you don't want this to go on too long without being aware that there IS help for you if you feel yourself slipping deeper into this "off" time, or that it just doesn't feel like it is lifting.
It sounds like for now, you could try not to dwell too much on the fact that you're feeling so "off." Sometimes trying to over-analyze how we feel can go to extremes, only making it more difficult to step away from the mood we've been trapped in. This doesn't mean I don't think that you shouldn't be aware of your moods. DO be aware of them and again, don't let them get out of hand. But, if you could occupy yourself with friends and activities as much as you can right now, you probably won't spend too much time trying to over-analyze yourself and figure out if this is normal or not. It IS normal. It only takes the path of something more than "normal" if it goes on and on, and then you will need to have help analyzing what really is going on.
Please don't be so hard on yourself. Depending on your age, you may be going through puberty-like, post-puberty, or very typical teen depression which is common only because there are so many changes happening to and around you. But, I think you'll be okay even though I am not disregarding the fact that you feel like the pits right now. That's an awful feeling and sometimes can feel as though it will never end. My guess is that it will. Just continue to be aware of yourself and how each day plays out. If people continue to come at you with the fact that it's really obvious that something is wrong, either try to talk to a "safe" person, or tell the others that you appreciate their concern but that they need to back off a little (you can say this in a nice way) and that you'll be okay. Even though I was annoyed to think that your friends and teachers might be making the situation worse by constantly pointing out to you that you're not being yourself, I DO think you are a lucky guy to have such concerned people in your life. And obviously, THEY are very lucky to have YOU in their lives. You must mean a lot to a lot of people and that's why they're so aware that something isn't right. Don't push them away even if you don't feel like opening up to them right now. If you're NOT really okay, try to talk to as many people as you can, don't keep this to yourself if you can help it, and by all means get that help I keep talking about...over and over again. (Sorry. Just trying to make a point.) I wish you lots of luck and hope that you're able to come out of this "off" mood very quickly. I will keep good thoughts for you. Don't hesitate to write an e-mail if you'd like. Take care of yourself.
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You must have something on your mind..(A girl?
OOhlalaaa)Maybe your just sleepy this week? Sometimes people do have off weeks. I do (Imma girl) And sometimes my boyfriend does. Maybe try to find out whats bothering you?
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That happens to me all the time. It actually happens to everyone haha. When I tried to talk to my mom about it she said she has it too. What she called it was seasonal depression. Since it's winter and getting darker out and everything, that tends to make your mood go down. Also, if the weather even has been really bad and rainy, that can also make you feel down. You'll pull out of it quickly though, don't worry. What I usually do is just keep hanging out with my friends as much as I can and they always seem to take my mind off things. Also, if school seems to be stressing you out to much, take a day off and just relax. Hope you feel better!!
xoxox
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