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my parents were never married, and shortly after i was born they split up. my father was an alcaholic and he used to come around sometimes when i was little, but when i got older i almost never saw him. when i was like 12 i would go to my grandfathers before for school because my mom worked and one day he just showed up. he told me to come to breakfast with him before school but i kicked and screamed. he picked me up and forced me into his truck, go to breakfast, and then school. since then my parents have been in and out of cort, and me and my mom learned he was a drug attic, and was homeless. i am 14 now and forced to go with him every saturday. i hate it, and we dont speak..we just sit in him old truck. on odd years (like this one) i have to spend thanksgiving and christmas with him. i never thought he even loved me..just the idea of me, but yet he still makes me go. he and his family are like strangers to me, and it is hard for me to be voicetrous and mean to them because of that. i really hate going with him and i want to stop. How do you think i can tell him that? because even though it seems easy, whenever i try i am somehow lost for words. please tell me what you think.
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he only forces you to spend time with him because he loves you! it probably makes him really sad that you wont talk to him! try treating him like hes a dad that you want. act like you love him back and you might have a better time with him. tell him how you feel about what he does, and explain thats why you dont like to spent time with him. mabey you can help him change.
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You probably won't like my advice but I will give it to you anyway.
I think that even though he has problems he is still your dad. He cares about you or he wouldn't try so hard to spend time with you.
You may not think so now but the time will come when you will regret it if you just cut him out of your life completely.
It would be wonderful if he was rich and not into drugs but hopefully his life will be a lesson to you. Maybe one day he will sober up and be a better dad to you. I hope so.
So, I think you need to try your best to get along with him. Get to know him better. Find out why hes done the things he has.
If you feel you are being disloyal to your mom by spending time with him don't be. They may not have been right for each other, but you are his daughter. For better or worse. Try to make the best of it. Change your attitude so he doesn't have to be on the defensive when you are together. You may learn to like him just a little bit anyway. :)
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