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Whats real...?
Hey everyone im new to this but you*ll find i need alotta help.lol this ones kinda long...
So One problem that im having is that im caught up on this kid, who likes me back, but is older. As in im 14 and hes almost 19... yea i know what a drag... And he keeps talking about how he hates the fact that we only get to see each other once or twice every other week. And i keep telling him it's only because we just started hangin out more and the holidays are coming buthe keeps saying that he cares about me but hes not sure if he can handle it...
Well The other day his friend andy was on his s/n acting as if he was ben.. he was saying all these things like that he wanted to have sex with me and he wanted to be my first time and trying to pressure me into doing it w/ him. Meanwhile deep down in my heart i knew it cant be ben but in the back of my mind im doubting myself... as usual...
After i practically had an axiety attack he told me it was him, andy, and not ben.
Well i think he played another one of these (not so funny) "jokes" on me again today 11*23*05 saying that him and ben were up in waverly staying with his friend jackie, which i didnt mind i understand he has friends, but then andy was saying that ben was gunna go out w/ jackie andall this n i didnt believe him n he goes your too young just deal w/ it. and then when i was talking to ben later he said it wasnt true... but then after we talked about it more he started gettin hostile with me and toldme to fuck off... at that point i wasnt sure if it was ben or andy.. then he justsigned off on me, whoever it was.
Now im so confused as to what i should do and how i should handle it... i care about ben so much, i may even love him but i just dont know.
hes never pulled ne thing like this before and he always talks about how much he cares about me and wants to see me all the time.. maybe he got tired of not being able to see me whenever he wanted to.. but im not sure... please help me ... im a 14/F bens 18/M
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I can see that you love Ben. I have a 14 year old friend who is dating an 18 year old so i can see where you are coming from. In my opinion it is a very big age difference but if you love him you should just remember that it may not have been him who said all this to you. Dont jump to conclusions yet. Call him and ask him about it. If you found out it was him then maybe you should consider ditching him cuz he hurt you, if it wasnt him then just remember that in a few years you can see each other all the time. If you wait it will all pay off. Good Luck!!!
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honestly.
ditch him.
i mean..5 years is a huge age diffrence for people our age.
the only thing that is gunna come out of this is hurt.
either emotionally or physically.
&i know that you dont want that.
i can understand the attraction to this guy.
i mean. it seems all cool to have an older boyfriend.
but its not.
go for someone closer to your age& someone who wont fuck with you like ben& his friend did.
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i think you should hang out with ben 1-on-1 and talk to him about it.. and if feelings are there then give it a shot but you just have to make sure his feelings are there too.
Love ** Tizzy
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maybe you should stop hanging aroundn with dudes that are constantly trying to get in your pants
gunner
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How about having him call you more often instead of using the internet cuz that could be the problem.. I mean on the phone you`d atleast know who your talking to and kno who said what.. But yea guys can play games just as well as females.. It could of been that guy Ben pretending to be his friend ANdy but who knows unless you ask him but still then you don`t know if its the truth..Sorry if i didn`t help much.. ♥ Dez
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