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i recently feel like i have no control over my relationships with my family, friends and classmates anymore. like, all of my relationships are venturing downhill, and it really hurts because there is noone that seems to understand me, and i seem invisible at times. sometimes i can't even understand myself. no matter how hard i try, i can't get back the good friendships i had with others anymore, and it feels like i'm gradually growing senseless to my actions. is there anything that i can do to help repair my relationships?
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well im going through the samr thimg i feel like im getting abandoned and no one will talk to me and there is only two people who really has helped me through to right now and yes it hurts teribly!!!and i mean my dad doesnt want to talk to me anymore and he is allways with my stepmom and stepsister payin me no mind and my mom is to occupied with her boyfriend so i know exactly what you are goin through !just go up to one of them and ask them to take about 30 min. of their time and just sit and talk!!!i really hope EVERYTHING works out <<33 amber
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First of all, if you try and "control" other people and/or relationships, you will be extremely frustrated. But you CAN control YOUR own actions...
"People do NOT enjoy being around you because of YOU. They like being with you because of HOW THEY FEEL when they are around you!"
Read that a couple of times and really think about what it means, because it can change your relationships for the better - and FAST!
Make your friends and family feel good about themselves, and they won't want to leave your side! For example, have you ever been around someone that constantly tried to impress you or constantly talked about themselves? Pretty annoying - huh? How do you feel when you are around people that ask about YOU? How do you feel when someone compliments YOU? Don't you LOVE being around people that laugh when you try and be funny and tell you how much fun you are? *The key to being liked, is to be interested in other people. If you can master this skill (yes, it IS a skill!), you will have tons of friends because everybody will like how they feel when they are around you.
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The first thing you can do is R.E.L.A.X. you might say you've tried or you have but you havent no matter how hard you've tried or who much you've tried.
I went through the same thing for months. I felt like everything I said was lost in the air and no one heard me. I felt like none of my friends wanted anything to do with me, and that i was invisible to my boyfriend and family.
The problem is somewhere inside your not happy with yourself. You need to look around and see whats going on in your life that you can change for the best.
Try going out and going shopping or waking up a couple hours earlier and getting ready to the best of your ability, or working out doing situps and eating healthy....
Everyone around you is hearing you, but doesnt notice that something is wrong because its only you who's seeing it...so relax...
hope i was of some help!
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