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Best Friends
14/f.
Here's the story...
I used to be BFF's w/ a girl since pre-school, but we drifted apart b/c we haven't been going to the same school. We are still friends, just not BFF. But I started becoming really good friends w/ a girl in my class in 8th grade, who moved up north. We both are really close and talk a lot on AIM, and I think we really are best friends now, and I was thinking about suggesting this possibility to her the next time she is online.
There is 1 problem, though...
Everyone who used to be in that class thinks that she is messed up. She tried to do it on purpose b/c she absolutely hated the elementary school we went to. The Assistant Principal was always trying to butt into her private life, so she hated her. I mean, we all did b/c she watched us like a hawk and ran student council instead of being faculty advisor like she was supposed to. But this girl especially. And she hated all the rest of the staff, too. So she went about pretending she was weird, like sniffing a bottle of rubbing alcohol in front of people, and sending an email exploding w/ cursewords to the entire school after she left. So, she accidentally convinced the STUDENTS that she was weird and then no one wanted to talk to her. They thought they were doing me a favor if they did, b/c me and this other girl are the only ones who talk to her now. And if they ask me who my best friend is, and I say she is, I'll probably be guilty by association. I know you think that I shouldn't care what other people think, but it can really have an effect on my life in high school. My parents really wanted me to go to a different high school, but I ended up being where I am. I am really happy at my school, and I don't want my association w/ this girl to make it any different. How can I convince my classmates that she is not in fact weird and that she just did that b/c she wanted to piss everyone off for being pissed off at her?
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i have to agree with the fact that they are out to get you. watch yourself!
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No one is out to get your friend. You know that people are odd and they will say and think anything they want to. They will be mean and there's really nothing you can do about that. Your friend did this to herself. She made people think she's weird and that's no accident. Convincing people she's different won't really work. I mean, they will always think and belive what they think is right. Some of the people in your class that say things about her tell them to stop and just explain to them what happened. Not everyone will belive you and you really can't do anything about that. It's great that you are friends with her, at least you're not mean like the rest of them. That popular girl.. who sniffed a marker they didn't say anything because they probablly liked her and were friends with her. You're right though. You shouldn't care about what other people think. Expecilly when they are immature and stupid people who really have nothing better to do but say stuff and it's hard to change their mind. Just keep doing whatever you're doing and ignore them. They will stop. What they have to say isn't even important.
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