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Shy long distance boyfriend.
I've had my long distance boyfriend for one and a half years. We are both very loving and cuddly and act like we've known each other forever, even when in person, we've never met. We'll both be 18 in a little over a year, and we plan on moving in and basically marrying each other as soon as we can. My problem is, he is shy sexually, and myself.. I would love for us to have that type of relationship. How can I get him to open up to me, talk dirty, maybe masturbate together on webcam or the phone.. I have told him I'm open to anything, that he turns me on, and all that, but his response is just that I'm beautiful and other lovely compliments. How can I tell him that I need 'that'.. without seeming too perverted.
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i really dont think its that hes shy i think it seems deeper then that. maybe he cherishs you and doesnt want to treat you "dirty". maybe you should tell him that you are his "nice" girl that wants to be "bad" with only him and guide him into it. some guys need you to take the lead. im sure he wants to make you happy so express how you feel and im sure things will change just dont pressure him too much. and you never know maybe you should have a heart to heart talk about what his fantasies may be and you might be suprised. maybe hes turned on by the innocent types
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There's a number of possibilities here as to why he's being shy about anything sexual:
1) Perhaps he doesn't want to come off as a 'sleaze' It's a well-known fact that most teenage guys want the same thing, and perhaps he wants to seem different in your eyes. He may want to come across as someone who genuinely respects you as a person, and not an object.
2) Another possibility is that he doesn't want to have your relationship be based on that. It's true, when you start up that kind of stuff, the relationsip changes a bit in a subtle way. He may think it might "ruin" things between you, especially since it's an online relationship for now.
3) Maybe he just wants to wait until you guys meet for that kind of thing.
Anyway, you've got to let him know how you feel. Be upfront and ask why he is so shy about that, and explain to him that it's not a "necessary" thing for you but you were wanting to know if there was a reason why he wasn't open about it. You've been going out a long time, and he's still not comfortable with that kind of stuff. It's certaintly something that needs to be brought to the surface and worked out. You won't come off 'perverted' - just concerned he doesn't trust you. ;)
Anyway, good luck with it. Let me know how it goes if you can.
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the best thing is to be straight up though not to hide it or any thing tell him that you want to expirance stuff with him
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long distance huh?
maybe he's just not ready for it.
or maybe he wants to wait until you guys finally see each other...since you guys are planning to move in together.
but be careful though...because u only met him on the internet and you how sometimes you think there good but actually not...so i suggest you just have to wait for him to be comfortable.
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