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really angry
last night i went over my friends house for his birthday. the situation is hard to explain but, i really like him. i went out with him before but he broke up with me after 4 days. which i guess hardly counts. but we've been flirting ever since we broke up. i always flirt with him and i've hooked up with him a few times in the last few weeks. i know im not gonna be able to go out with him because of the way he is and cant stick to a commitment. so last night my best friend was cuddling with him on the couch. it was really ticking me off. she knows i like him and always yells at me for flirting with him so much because "im gonna get myself hurt" but last night she was all over him. i think he's mad at me. im not sure though... i wasnt supposed to be out last night. i said i was at a friends house because i wasnt supposed to be over this guys house. i also slept over his best friends house and he was there until 2:30 am before he went home. im sick of being hurt because i like him. and i try to stop liking him but i just cant. can anyone help?
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Try talking to him about how you feel. If that doesn't work then maybe you need to find someone who likes you the way you want him to like you.
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i know how you feel. mee && my OLD best friend were like that. he dumped mee after 4 days 2. he liked us better as friends. and i still liked him.
but the reason you kant get over him, is because... he's always there. && when yer around somebody that you onced like, you start telling yerself.. "maybe i do like him.." but you dont know for sure. and i think that yer caught in a phase thats telling yerself that you like him, and thats why you "still like him && you kant stop"
and if he is skared of commitment... talk to him && tell him that if he's skared of commitment.. then why does he have friends? friends are commitment 2.
i hope i helped.
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You can't change your feelings for one. So don't try to, it will just make you feel worse. No, four days doesn't really count. You need to stop hooking up with him because then he knows that any time another girl won't give him what he wants, you will. So you need to make sure you keep it on a friends level with him. Don't flirt as much ,DON'T hookup ,make him jealous if you want to , but not to the point where you look permiscuous. Don't hook up with other people to make him jealous, it will just cause drama. Tell your friend it hurt your feelings that she was all cuddled up with him. I don't know how old you are so I can't tell you the whole "commitment" situation because if your'e in like 9th grade or under commitments don't really exsist. If he doesn't want to be with you, you are wasting your time. I hope I helped. Have a fantastic day :)
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Answer: Ask yourself this... Does a person who does not care about my feelings, who uses me to "hook-up," who is afraid of committment, really deserve my love?
He sounds like a total jerk. He does not respect you, or else he would not be cuddling with your "best" friend in front of you. She doesn't seem like much of a friend either, and it sounds like she tells you to stop flirting with him so SHE can get to him.
Open your eyes. You deserve so much better! Don't let this guy have control over your emotions. He is not worth the pain and heartache. If you focus on him, you are denying yourself the opportunity to find someone better.
Find better friends, do things you love, and stop all contact with him. Seeing him and speaking with him, especially having physical contact with him, is only reopening the wounds you are trying to heal. Yes, it will be hard at first, but in time, things will get better, and you'll be a much happier, wiser person, who will end up with someone who treats you how you should be treated!
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Dear Really Angry,
The info you have given is really vague and I need to know more about what's up to give any REAL advice. But from what you have said here, it sounds like you know he is unreachable. You obviously like him, but he seems to be a player of some sort.
Your so called friend was just saying those things about you getting hurt. She wanted him for herself and telling you to stop flirting with him gave her the room she needed to move in. Stay away from her, she is a backstabbing liar. DO NOT TRUST HER.
OK, I have questions and then I can get to the real advice OK.
What makes you think he is mad at you?
Did you sleep over at his friends house before his birthday party?
When you say "hooked up" do mean you had sex with him?
When you say you slept over at his best friends house are you saying you slept, or had sex?
Don't worry, I do not condemn people for having multiple partners. The more the merrier I say.
Please get back to me. I would love to help you out.
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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