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I RATE 5's !!
I've been going out with this boy, Jay for a little over a month. When we first met we clicked. He's one of the nicest boys i know and he treats me very well. The only thing is that he goes away to boarding school, which is about 20 minntutes away from my town, and his family lives around 45 minnutes away. It's very difficult to go and visit/ see Jay, because i'm always the one who has to do al the work for the relationship, and he is very seldom able to leave his campus. He also tends to be very dorky at times where i just look at him and am like, oh lord. And he makes gay jokes all the time, pretending to be gay with his friends and it comes off as a bit creepy as well. But overall he's a cute boy.
Theres also this other boy, Kyle, who goes to my school. He and i have been getting very close all of a sudden, and he really opens up to me. We talk about everything all the time, and he is extremely hot. He lives VERY close to me, so it's not a hassle to go and visit him. So i'm beginning to like Kyle.
I feel extremely awful for liking another boy while having a boyfriend, and ive only had two other boyfriends my entire life, and i'm seventeen. I feel as though i only go and visit my b/f Jay just because it's something to do. But when i'm with him i really like him. It's a confusing situation. I don't know if i'd be better off with Kyle from my town, or my boyfriend Jay. I really love hanging out with Jay and his firends, but when im not around them .. it's like i could care less.A
Bigger Dilemma..
Today Kyle asked me to go to the movies with him sometime this week. He knows that Jay and i haven't been getting along with our relationship too well and i guess that;s why he asked me. WOuld it be wrong to go to the movies with him? (i dont know if it would be as just friends or more) and should i stay with jay even thoguh i have feelings for someone else?! Thank you so much if you can help me. I RATE 5's to anyone who gives me SOME advice. THANKS!!
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well i think you should totely goo with Kyle too the movies and i think you should goo out with Kyle and break up with Jay because it is hard when you dont get too see your boyfriend and stuff and Kyle you get too see him every day and pluss he leaves close soo ... but thats my opinian soo do what ever you want and think realy hard about it because you dont want to make a huge mistake and hope i helped
♥ Samra
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Hey hun!
I don't think it'd be wrong at all to go to the movies with Kyle. You'd most likely be going as friends, because he knows you already have a boyfriend. Just make sure you don't go and cheat on your boyfriend right now. That wouldn't be so good. As for Jay, I don't think you should stay with him at all. It's not fair to him, because your thinking about someone else while your going out with him. You need to be honest with him and let him know that you like someone else. Explain to him that with Kyle it would be so much easier, because of the distance and everything. Long distance relationships don't work out very often. It's very hard to make them work! Your boyfriend should understand. Make sure you let him know that you hope to stay friends with him. I hope I helped you out hun! If not, I'm really sorry. Luv ya! If you have anymore questions, leave them in my inbox. Good luck with this! Let me know how it goes.
<3 KiMmY
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Well...
the question is.. what do you want?
you shouldnt be asking people for advice.. but i understand.
talk to jay.. and ask him what he wants.
and ask kyle if it'd be juss as friends or more.
kuz you dont wanna go if its gonna be more kuz that would be cheating.
im sure that jay will understand, but it sounds like yer only using jay as a kall for fun when yer bored. try staying w// jay for a while longer and if you still feel like this, then dump him!
i hope i helped!
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Answer: As far as the "bigger dilemma" goes, would Jay mind if you went to the movies with Kyle? I think you know in your heart that it's wrong, seeming that you are attracted to Kyle.
Distance can be bothersome, but if you truly care about someone, it can work. I was in a long-distance relationship with someone, and I actually went a year and a half without seeing him and never ever questioned my love for that person. So the fact that you're questioning means that maybe you are not into him as much as you think.
The fact that you're having feelings for someone else means that you are not happy in your relationship with Jay. I can't tell you who to chose, you have to figure that out for yourself. I know that if the little things that Jay does truly bother you, those feelings will not go away. They will just get to you even worse than they are now the longer you stay with him, no matter how many other good qualities he has.
Whatever you do, do not cheat on Jay or stay with him simply because you feel guilty for breaking up with him. If you're unhappy in the relationship, cannot handle the distance, and are having feelings for someone else, you might want to consider ending it with Jay. It may end up being for the best and who knows... maybe Kyle really is the right guy for you after all!
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