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Not Enuf Time
I am 17/M. I have a girlfriend that I have almost dated for 4 months. We had a great realtionship to start out with. Once school began though I start to drift away from her. I am very active in school and after school. She is in love with me but I am not.(I told her I didn't after lying about it for awhile) She calls and I am not really inclined to call her back or even talk to her when she does call. It is like a chore for me. I wuldn't mind spending time with her but only if it was for awhile not some BS 15 mins. When we are together I feel really close and begin to like her a lot. Then after like 2 weeks I just dont care anymore. She is really serious in this relationship and I am not so much. I don't know what to do. I just want some direction or arrow telling me what I need to do. Plz give me that DIRECTION!
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you sound like your not sure of what your want and your girlfriend is. you should break up with her because its not right for her. shes totally in love with you, mean while, you dont feel the same. thats just not right. you need to figure out what you want before trying to make it work with her. your girlfriend isnt supposed to be the equivelent of doing the dishes or cleaning your room. she should be something you look forward to. <3
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I think you need to break up with her sweetie. Whenever a relationship turns to a chore its not worth it. Why waste your time? 17 is still young and all and ifyou're so into sports why waste the time! A girlfriend is someone you should constantly want to be with, and cant live without seeing her. I think its time to move on. become friends, maybe you can give it a shot another time!
<3 holly
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I think that if you are not happy with this girl then you shouldnt be with her. Mayeb you just see her as a friend than a girlfriend. If you were friends then you would talk in school and hang out somtimes on the weekends. If you dont feel like you like this girl then you need to be with someone that you do like. This is your happiness you do what you need to do to make yourself happy. It seems like you are just with her to make her happy but you need to make yourself happy to.
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You need to sit down with her and explain all this. Because chances are, if she thinks you feel this way she won't WANT to be with you. And if she ACTUALLY loves you, then she'll want you to be happy; even if it means not being with you.
♥ Melissa
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Maybe you should explain more the way you kinda want her to act. (Less clingy, etc.) And give her a chance to prove that she can be a little less obsessive, and give you some time. If after a few days you still aren't happy THEN maybe take a break. Then you can at least say you tried. (= Good luck!
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personaly your scarying now i am wondering if that is how my boyfriend feels about me.. if my boyfriend ever told me that he didnt like me the way i like him or even more then i did i would have left him already and tryed finding someone else.because he barely talks to me anymore. but anyways this question is about you. it might just ebcause you need to clear your head and think what is more important to you. what would be some advice but can ruin your realtionship with her is to ask her to take a break because you need to clear up your head. if she loves you and after you cleared you head and find out the truth if you really do care about then she will come back to you. if she doesnt then it will prove that she doesnt really care. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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Have you ever thought that maybe you are just afraid to commit? that could be the problem you aren't ready to give up the single life just yet. If you don't think you can commit to be with her as her boyfriend for at least a while than I would say you need to end it, for her sake because you would just be leading her on. If you think you can be with her and like it then I would stay with her and see what happens, it could be a very good relationship. But in the end its really all about you, what you feel and whats best for you, I can't tell you what to do, go with your heart. best of luck, hope this helped.
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