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not socially accepted
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at my school im not socially accepted and i dont no why this is my second year here and im not trying to be cocky but im really pretty, and im nice, but im not socially accepted for some reason. ps i go to a private school. But anyway my ex-best frieend goes to the same school i do and she thinks shes miss all taht or w.e and there are about 16/40 kids in my calss that i get along fine with its jsut the people who don't like me always hang out with those people i get along with. there is this one person who always picks on me saying that im annoying when to tell you the truth im really not. I have had a really hard life so far, and i don't want to see a therapist or anything, but today after school i was crying because im not socailly accepted and i really like the school and all, but some of the kids there are so mean to me. also does neone know some good combacks/stand up for yourself or nething
ps i would switch schools but i cant
ps there are only 2 other schools around me (one is a sorta druggie school, the other school i dont no)
ps what should i say to the person who keeps on saying omg your annoying get the hell out of here, etc
please help me i willl rate
please answer all my questions thats in my story and the ps ones
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well i would suggest the you kinda try and make more friends, but the thing is some of the prettier girls give off a vibe, its a i am too good for everyone or a i am too pretty type of vibe and nobody really likes it, b/c they are jealous but still. just calm down with the i am pretty and stuff..and you know going to a cousellor or theripist isnt really bad its actually a good thing they will help you get over the tough times.. sorry bout the spelling. and good luck ,and to the person is pickin on you seriously just stick up for your self, if they call you annoying just be like i may be annoying but at least i have good looks, or sumthin like ..use your advanteges to their diadvanages, i know makin fun of them doesnt really help, either do that or just ignor.i would suggest the just ignore, it what i do...good luck
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girl i went throw the same thing at school girl you know what you do, be your own person start your own group like I did forget the rest of the haters they hating on you girl do you, be you get you about a couple of good friends and throw a big party to make everyone wanna be you girl!! and who ever is telling you to get the hell out of there face girl stand up 4 yo self
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Hey i know how you feel.Im sort of goin thru the same thing.I go to a private school too (not that that has anything to do with it) and theres just "cliques" in my class and its kinda hard to find out which one you fit in with.The people who are annoying you, are proabably doing that because they're jealous.All you can do is ignore them.And if ur nice to them,it makes them really mad cuz they know that what they're trying to do isn't working.If you're not going to ignore them or make peace with them then try that.Trust me,it kills them.It's the best come back you can have.
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Well i know exactly what you are going through. I was friends with just about everyone but certain people wouldnt hang out with me b/c i hung out with crowd. You do not sound annoying to me. I know it is hard but people that act like that are jealous. I found that out. They treat you badly b/c they actually want what you have. The best thing is to ignore them and say "Is that the best you got". There is a good come back. I would suggest concentrating on someting other than your friends. You need to find something that you enjoy doing and that will help learn not to worry about your friends. And if they call you annoying again just say not as bad as you.
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Ok, let's start with the p.s.: My dear, your ONLY CHOICES are to make peace and get along, or ignore them and move on. Pick one.
It turns out you only need a couple close friends to get by in school and be happy. Nobody's liked by everybody, and everybody's picked on by somebody.
I assume you have a few friends at the school. You aren't hanging out with them tonight. Why not? If they didn't invite you along, then next week ask them what they have planned for the weekend and see if they invite you along. Or ask if you can join them. If they don't want to include you in their plans, MOVE ON. Make some new friends. Remember, you only need one or two close friends to be happy. What appears to be large groups of friends are really collections of small groups of friends--a conglomeration of sorts.
Regarding your ex friend and the bullies, I suggest you opt for ignoring them and moving on. You aren't likely to make peace with them because they don't likely want peace with you.
Dr. Chad
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Basically You Said right, you need to stand up for yourself. But the best thing to do is ignore them. You don't want to say nothing that you think would affend them. Just try to make peace.
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hey. im really sorry that you are not socially accepted at your school. that can be very tough and discouraging. however, there are many things you can do to make new friends. for example, participate in school activities [like clubs, sports, football games]. you can meet many new people by doing that. how? go up to a person who seems to be alone like you and introduce yourself. if you do that you just found someone to say hey to in the halls! [you can also do this with a group of 2-3 people] as for the person who calls you annoying, just call him/her a bitch. im serious, too. just say "bitch" or "shut up, bitch!" it will make you look self confident, which people like. also, find something wrong with the person who calls you annoying. is he overweight? does he have tons of acne? is he a nerd? does he have a lisp? etc. then use that against him.
i hope i helped! GOOD LUCK! dont feel bad or cry, its only middle school. and whatever you do, dont switch schools [its harder to meet new people then]
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