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A little conversation would help...?
Last weekend, a guy asked me out at my birthday party - I don't know him very well, but he did help me set up the party with a bunch of other people, and from what I've heard, he's a good guy. So I asked for his number and said I'd call him, and I did, and I said no, and told him it was because we didn't know each other very well, and maybe over time something could happen - and I wasn't lying. Okay, so that was the end of that. Yesterday I saw him at a party and I sort of had nooo idea what to say. He came over and sat next to me and he is reallly, reallly nice...now I'm the kind of girl that always snorts at my friends when they talk about butterflies and being in love and stuff, because we're 15 and I dont think relationships at this age work all that well.
So I kind of don't know what to do, cause everytime I see him I dont know what to sayyy, like how to have a conversation with him, cause I've always been so skeptical about relationships. So, please help me cause I'm a little bit confused here. What do I say to him when I see him, like at parties or wherever? I always thought that I knew so much about all this relationship stuff but it turned out I dont (x_x).
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Just because a guy askes you out doesn't mean it has to turn into a serious adult relationship. You can casually date him and get to know him at the same time. Get to know him, he obviously would like to get to know you. Ask him about his life. Ask him about his week, ask him if he has ever gotten some wicked cool advice from some wicked cool advicenators. When you get comfortable with him, you may change your mind about dating.
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You know what's funny is that we do are best at relationships when we dont stress about it. Let it happen naturally. Just try to be yourself and forget about the relationship stuff.
About your skepticism... that's natural. We see people around us getting their hearts broken and we start to feel that we are never gonna allow ourselves to get in that position. The truth is that a broken heart now and then is what helps us grow to be a better person for the one that is meant to be.
Everything great has its risks. Dont be afraid, be yourself and be willing to take that risk.
Good Luck,
Eva J
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I was 15 when I started dating my current boyfriend...(although he is two years older than myself...) I'm 16 going on 17 now...that just goes to show you relationships CAN work at this age. However you are right to wait to get to know him better...Devin and I took a month of talking on the phone everyday before we made it official. I use to be the same way about relationships. If you can talk to him for hours on end (on the phone and in person) than its definitely worth it...if not than maybe you just don't have enough in common. Hope you go ahead and give it a try!
Good luck!
-Nina
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