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theres a girl fight that will start
ok well i started hanging out with this girl named ashley.. and she drinks and all this stuff, (mind you we are all 13) i dont do that, and i only hang with her in school, but since then all my friends think ive been rude or a little diffrent, my old bffl *r* thinks that ive changed and she wants the old me back, but i dont know how to tell ashley, im scared she'll like want to beat me up, and shes changed me, its true, i see it in me. ive thought about this before, i mean i want to be friends with ash, just not like stuck together for ever. PLEASE HELP.
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You want to stay friend with someone who you believe might beat you up if you have a difference of opinion?
Another person can never change you. YOU can change you, and you are responsible for the person you are - and the person you are becoming. Ashley might be exposing you to things you are not used to, but she cannot creep into your mind and force you to become someone different. You've made a choice, whether you realize it or not, to modify your behaviour and act in a new way.
Now it's up to you whether or not you see this change as a good thing. It's in your power to stay this way (don't change things and keep on as you are - although realizing you might lose your best friend over it)...or to decide to reverse these new changes. A first step might be in stopping your friendship with Ashley, as you have only changed your behaviour after hanging out with her.
A third option is to be who you really are, Ashley or no Ashely, and be comfortable with yourself. If you do this, you'll find out soon enough who your true friends are. Only you can know who you want to be - you are the expert on yourself.
Best of luck.
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13??? Sound like ashley lacks something in her life and she is using drinking for it. Shes doing it to look cool or she really does have some kind of phycological problem. Most people dont start drinking just to do it.
I think if your scared to break off the friendship then try doing it slow. Another words if she calls wanting you to hange out with her then tell her your grounded, or your mom is making you do chores. If she calls tell her "HOLD on" give her like a minute of waiting on the phone then come back saying "hey i gotta go someone needs the phone."
its sounds mean...but if this ashley chik is that bad of a person maby you should try it.
(sorry if my advice was no help.)
if you like my advice please feel free to ask for more...
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teen drinking is very bad. just say no.
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Hey!!
-- Well.. this happend to me too. There isnt anything to say to ashley. Just hang out with her less and less, and hand out with your old bff more and more at school. You will deff. see a change. If you are scared to tell ashley how you feel then she isnt a true friends because you are scared of her... just somthing to think about.
-- hope i helped ♥ Michelle
-- That isnt right.. she shouldnt pull you away from friends like that. Just because she doesnt like them it doesnt mean you cant.. To avoid any injuries, i think you should have her come to your house and talk to her one on one. Tell her how you feel, and she could take it or leave it. Your a very good person to realize that she is not a great friend. So i admire you for that.
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