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hurt feelings
My friend is really nice, funny, independent, and sometimes crazy. Alot like me considering we are best friends and get along great. Well, she has had so many people have crushes on her it is not even funny. Homecoming is coming up and she is going with one guy that likes her, but secretly wants to go with another who lieks her. It is not even funny. OK, then there is me. I feel like everyone is looking right thru me toward her. It hasnt gotten on my nerves before but now it's driving me crazy. Am I non-likable or do I attract all the shy guys who never admit their feelings???
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Oh been there, done that. My best friend was a BLOND, LARGE Breasted, Model, Heavy metal chic. The guys followed her around like lost puppies. LOL But I loved my best friend so much, that we swore no guy would come between "Our Friendship". We swore that she wouldn't date any of my boyfriends (ex or otherwise) and I wouldn't date any of her boyfriends. I was the fat and cute one. Basically almost all the guys I dated where after her one way or another. I felt used and confused alot. Then one night it all changed. She walked into a gay bar and everyone never even looked at her. It was so funny, she swore she would never go to that place again. *rolls on the floor laughing* she got a dose of what I got everyday. She was exciting and alot of fun to be around, and we finished each others sentences. It was pure friendship. When I felt jealous, I would just tell myself that you can't make anyone love you, you must accept that and move on. After REALLY saying to yourself and move on, her happiness is more important than who you date. I would always find a date on my "OWN" to prevent the "well i'm just doing this for HER best friend, pity date" Don't lower yourself to that. I have gone to many events by myself or have just asked male friends. But the best time I had was when none of us had dates, we were all seniors, and all 3 of us went to the dance together and partied the whole night. Dances are meant to be fun, and if you walk in with the attitude, ah f it, I'm just gonna rock and be happy with yourself.. You will be surprised, guys love that. They may not ask you to dance at the dance (most have dates) but they will remember that you had so much fun, and you where perfectly happy by yourself.
No pity Parties..
Cass
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For starters you are not non likeable! People just probably think you are your friends sidekick. Be your own indivual and try to be serperate from your friend (still friends obviously) but be your own indivual!
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Well I'll let you know one thing - the shy guys that never admit their feelings sometimes turn out to be the best boyfriends, or even just regular friends. Don't let it get to you if your friend is the one with 'all the crushes'. Really, do you want to have to worry about your appearence all the time, that guys are watching you all the time, that if you mess up or look bad at something everyone will know all the time? Not saying that its not a good thing, but you also might not like all that attention. I can relate to what you are feeling: why always them and not me? It all depends. Don't try to compare yourself to your friend or be like her - because you aren't her, and wouldn't want to be liked for being like her. Hmm...in this situation I don't see much you could do to solve it. Firstly, haven't you ever looked through guys and not noticed them? I have a feeling just about everyone is guilty of that, and its not something thats done purposley. So don't let it get to you or think that you have to flirt or anything like that to get guys to notice you. I say just be yourself and be patient - good things come to those who wait. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Maybe there are some shy guys who like you but hey at least your liked. Ask your friend for advice or ask if she can hook you up with a guy since shes soo good at meeting them. If your nervous about homecoming and who to go with then a suggest if you like a guy go after him or take some close friends and go in a group. Hope i helped!
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