My daughter showed me what a great site this is. I was very impressed at how responible the advice/answers have been displayed. I have experienced life through forgiveness and positive attitude. Of course I have learned it the hard way. She likes giving advice as well as asking questions.
Gender: Female
Age: 32
Member Since: October 1, 2005
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Last Update: October 2, 2005
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ok right this is gunna be kinda long i think..
so i know this boy lets call him fred from school and i like him and apparently he likes me LOADS cos ma m8 laura bf is like best mates wid fred any ways theres this freshers party in like 2 weeks and fred said to laura and her bf that we should all go as a 4 but he dosent know she told me lol
she said its so obvious he like me any way she thinks we should get together and make out and stuff.
i really really want to!! ive liked him for aaaages and i really want to be with him
so what kinda stuff should i do between now and the party to make him want me sooo much it hurts i always see him staring at me out the corner of my eye then when i look at him he always looks away.
we have the same friends we always talk on msn messenger but hardly ever at college.
what should i do between now and the party to make him want to be with me i know he does hes just shy!
ill rate 5's for good advice and 1's for anyone who says bad stuff
xoxox (link)
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let him know you like him. let him know how you feel, its gonna be really hard if your shy, but your gonna have to do it. if not then try to let him come to you. ask him out you sound like your in love so try asking him out.
hope i helped!
Cass
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Hey, im 12, female and i am in 7th grade. there is this guy that i found out liked me and his name is ben. me and him were becoming really good friends the past 2 weeks. we flirted a lot but i never really liked him... one of his x-girlfriends told me that he liked me. i thought she was kidding but it was getting around our school real fast. everyone came up to me like your going out with ben? or omg ben lieks you !! and i never went out with him and i dont like him that way and i knew he liked me. i feel so bad to say no becasue he was such a good friend. i wish he never liked me becasue it made things kinda weird between us... he acts different...one of my really really good friends- fred told him that i loved him as a joke and got kinda mad... but i told ben that i didnt love him adn he kinda got hurt and i feel soo bad.. what should i do? how should i act? should i say something to him? im so confused (link)
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i'm sorry u feel that way and those other guys didn't help either did they? jerks.
what had happened to ben happened to me too. the guy broke my heart 3 days ago and i feel so sad, and so does ben. tell him that you really like him as a friend. and that there is nothing wrong with him. what i do is listen to music, like soft rock, music that realates to me. it really helps!
hope i helped!
P.S. i beleive you and beleive in you :)
Cass
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13/m I experienced love this summer and I hate it! No, it wasn't infatuation! I know infatuation, this is true love! Maybe I should start from the beginning:
It all started in science class. Or teacher was getting pissed so he decided to assign our seats boy/girl/boy/girl. Of course, I was paired up with the hyperactive freak, because that's just my luck. Immediately, I think to myself, "It's going to be a loooong year."
But she wasn't so bad after all. Time passed, we became friends. The teacher let us change seats, but the people in the front had to sit in the back and vice versa, and it still had to be boy/girl. For simplicity, we just sat next to each other all 3 times that happened.
Everyone made fun of me for it. I'm a geek and proud, and so obviously none of my friends had girlfriends yet either. Actually, only the jocks that girlfriends, and that was because of popularity and "Is she hot?". My parents and sisters were always having fun teasing me. One opf my best friends just liked embarassing me just for being friends with a girl: "Hey, (her name), you know what? You look like (my name)'s girlfriend!" Immediately, we both denied that and walked away. He just grinned. Immature!
As time passed, I learned to love her without knowing it. I didn't know what was happening---I was hoping really hard that I would be placed in a group with her, I was really depressed whenever she had to go... and over the summer I ultimately realized what life was like without her, and I realized that I needed her and that I loved her. So I told her how I felt.
She had recently gone through a painful breakup (I was jealous, she had already gotten a first kiss) with someone who had been one of her best friends, and didn't want to repeat that. Also, she got into a big fight with the popular kids and jocks and they'll do anything to get revenge on her or anyone close to her. And... she's still not quite sure how she feels about me. She said she was thinking about me when she was on vacation for 2 weeks... that's a good sign...
Asking her out really didn't work to well... and now not only have I been tormented by jealousy, rejection, love, and sadness, everything has started to remind me of her. It's been like that for weeks. The carnival? I took her there once. Billy Joel? His "The Longest Time" perfectly describes how I feel. Homestarrunner.com or even Monty Python? They remind me of her. I can't go through life just remembering her everything I do...
Last night I was at a friend's Bar Mitzvah party and I only knew two people there: my sister and the guy who was having the Bar Mitzvah with his brother. The guys who were having the Bar Mitzvah were surrounded by girls during the dances... from The Twist to One-Two Step, there were two girls for every guy, except for me. I wound up dragging my sister onto the dance floor for one of the slow dances... I was thinking the whole time, "Why can't this be the one I'm in love with? Why am I stuck slowdancing with my sister and doing that old making-out-with-yourself routine?" And furthermore, at one point the DJ had us play Musical Guys, where the guys were the chairs and to settle a tie on a guy, the first one to kiss the guy on the cheek gets to stay in. Two people sat on my leg. One of them just voluntarily got out because she didn't want to kiss me. Neither of them did. I can't blame them. But then I'm looking around the room, and some guys are literally smothered! Am I just doomed to be a hopeless single freak? Help me... please! (link)
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YOU ARE IN LOVE! that's exactly how love feels! you cannot stop thinking of the person. I did that with my best friend once. It was horrible! i loved him ssssoooooooooo much like you loved this girl. just to give you a heads up, don't be supprised when she doesn't like you (i mean like, like you) the guy i loved did not like me because... i was not athletic i loved video games, liked food, and i guess you could say i'm oddsessed with computers. :D i am a total geek. its not like "she's one of the nerds" it was more like "who?" You are going to be obbsessed with this girl for a long time. like i said before music helps. have you listened to this song called helena? well that song might help, it calmed me down. she might not love you, but at least you are best friends! i'm in junior high. and what i'm seeing right now is that you are a very,very sweet guy and she should like you! and i really like you by the way you sound. not by the looks or by wha clothes you wear, she should like you for who you are. but since she broke up with the guy she might take a while to calm down. if you want to e-mail me and talk abt it here it is, hold on i'm gonna get in so much trouble so nvm. i like you alot! *hugs* bye!
hope i helped!
Cass
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Me and my x friend areant talking anymore!! We used to be best friends and tell everyone that we were cousins and stuff... and now in middle school were not talking and we always get in fights. What do I do...because Ill have dreams that were friends then I wake up relizing it was only a dream...its really upset! HELP?!
From girl with friend problems. (link)
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my friends were the same way! and i was the one in the middle of the fights. since i didn't want to be in the middle, i stoped talking to them for two weeks! Man i got calls!
but any ways sometimes you grow out of being friends, its natrual. and i go to junior high too and i'm best friends with the person who HATED me in the 5th grade, so what i'm saying is that you grow out of being friends, and i just think that u should try, really try hard to say ur sorry and tell her that you might just be growing away from her in the nicest way you can. ok?
Cass
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13/m I have a sister, let's call her "Z", she's 2 years older than me. Niether of us have ever had dates before. But this last summer, I realized that I was in love with one of my best friends from school "M", and Z was in love with one of her best friends from camp, whose name doesn't matter. Well, of course I told M how I felt about her, because it was just burning up inside me and I didn't know what else to do. It turns out, she's not sure how she likes me, and also she has an ex who went through a painful breakup with her. Because he's a jock. I am not in any way, shape, or form, a jock, and also I can't thing of any reason why we would go through a painful breakup with her. So not only is she unsure of her feelings, but she also doesn't want to go through a painful deja vu. And to put it on top of everything, she had a huge argument with the popular kids, and they will do anything to get revenge on her or anyone close to her---namely, me. So I was insanely depressed for a long time...
About two months later, we learned that what Z was feeling was mere infatuation. She went to another school this year, and she met a really weird guy "R", first they just had a bunch of classes together, then Z realized that she liked him, and eventually she loved him, and her best friends were pushing her to ask him out, or else they could slap her really hard continuously for 3 straight minutes. So she asked him out, and they're going out in a few weeks---on his birthday!
A day or two before, I had asked M to the school dance, as friends or more. She might be rehearsing for a play then, but at least there's hope. But for some reason I feel like Z isn't ready to be dating yet... I don't know why. I've never met R but he sounds like such a great guy... I don't know... Maybe it's just a huge milestone in both of our lives... maybe I'm jealous... I don't know... And right now I feel like I'm going to burst out of confusion... I usually know what's going on, people always answer my questions with stuff like "Wow, how old are you really?" or "I know some people who are 21 and you're more mature than them!" And all that crap. But now this is the one time outside of social studies or having to do with M when I have no idea what's going on... why am I so jealous or worried for her? And has it ever struck you as difficult to have two people who happen to both love each other? Like, really, what are the odds? Thanks... I'm so distraught! (link)
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It sounds like your really in love! and i had that same problem. A couple of days ago i was really in love (i mean really in love) but the guy did'nt like me. and he broke my heart, and felt exactly like you did. what i do is listen to soft rock or music that kind of realates (at least i think its spelled that way) to you or to how you are feeling (like depressed etc.). it made me feel that i wasn't the only one who felt that way. and when that happens you feel a little more calmed down. and then you just let charrish every moment you have with her, and write it in a diary. thats how girls usually calm down. hope i helped!
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My friend is really nice, funny, independent, and sometimes crazy. Alot like me considering we are best friends and get along great. Well, she has had so many people have crushes on her it is not even funny. Homecoming is coming up and she is going with one guy that likes her, but secretly wants to go with another who lieks her. It is not even funny. OK, then there is me. I feel like everyone is looking right thru me toward her. It hasnt gotten on my nerves before but now it's driving me crazy. Am I non-likable or do I attract all the shy guys who never admit their feelings??? (link)
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Oh been there, done that. My best friend was a BLOND, LARGE Breasted, Model, Heavy metal chic. The guys followed her around like lost puppies. LOL But I loved my best friend so much, that we swore no guy would come between "Our Friendship". We swore that she wouldn't date any of my boyfriends (ex or otherwise) and I wouldn't date any of her boyfriends. I was the fat and cute one. Basically almost all the guys I dated where after her one way or another. I felt used and confused alot. Then one night it all changed. She walked into a gay bar and everyone never even looked at her. It was so funny, she swore she would never go to that place again. *rolls on the floor laughing* she got a dose of what I got everyday. She was exciting and alot of fun to be around, and we finished each others sentences. It was pure friendship. When I felt jealous, I would just tell myself that you can't make anyone love you, you must accept that and move on. After REALLY saying to yourself and move on, her happiness is more important than who you date. I would always find a date on my "OWN" to prevent the "well i'm just doing this for HER best friend, pity date" Don't lower yourself to that. I have gone to many events by myself or have just asked male friends. But the best time I had was when none of us had dates, we were all seniors, and all 3 of us went to the dance together and partied the whole night. Dances are meant to be fun, and if you walk in with the attitude, ah f it, I'm just gonna rock and be happy with yourself.. You will be surprised, guys love that. They may not ask you to dance at the dance (most have dates) but they will remember that you had so much fun, and you where perfectly happy by yourself.
No pity Parties..
Cass
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