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my best friend hates me!! we were best friends and now she always has plans when i ask if she wants to do something and she flips out over everything that she doesnt like. i asked her if she was mad at me and she totally flipped out! i really cant live without her and its only been a day. please help. what can i do to make her love me again?
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she probably wants a little break from ya. Like maybe you guys have to much togetherness
im sure you guys will be friends again
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You need to tell her that her attitude is pissing you off. If she can't understand that, then forget about her. No friendship is a lot better than a bad friendship. Find someone who doesn't flip out, and all shall be better.
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Whatever, you asked for advice on what to do about a best friend who flips out. If you wanna be dumb about it, and continue to hang out with her acting that way, go ahead.
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Hi There,
Sometimes it's easier to seethe in silence when someone does something to wind you up, but that doesn't make the issue go away. If anything, bottling up your feelings like this just makes the problem seem worse. It means you risk a situation where your mate steps just slightly out of line and you explode right in front of them - which doesn't solve anything.
Whether your friend's just being annoying without realising, or s/he's done something terrible that's totally wound you up, it's always wise to pick a good time to talk - preferably when you're feeling calm and there's nobody else around to chip in or stir things up for you.
Your aim here is to encourage this person to see things from your point of view. If your mate can see the upset they've caused for themselves, they'll be more likely to change their behaviour towards you.
Nobody likes to feel as if they're being attacked, or that somehow they have to defend their actions, so don't lay into them - it'll only risk a fistfight (or that slappy-scrap thing girls do sometimes).
You can't expect them to change their behaviour straight away, especially if you're both feeling a bit self-conscious after getting things out in the open. Instead, give them some time and space to process the problem and act upon it. If they value your friendship, you should see a new improved mate in no time.
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