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Trust problems
Before I start I'm a sixteen year old girl. This might be a long one.
Well my parents don't trust me. They say they do but everything that goes wrong is blamed on me and basically 99% of the time I wasn't the one who did it. For instance when my dog chewed on the seatbelts in the car until they were bascially ruined my parents accused me of cutting the seatbelts with scissors as a way of telling them that I was angry. Well I used to be a really big troublemaker until I turned ten but now I'm basically the most innocent teen ever and they still don't see why I don't talk to them. I don't talk to them that much because I'm afraid that they will not believe whatever I'm trying totell them and just blow up on me. My mom is okay. She sometimes believes me but my dad just explodes on me and will slam the door in my face because he doesn't want to hear what I have to say. I have never really gotten along with my dad because his sense of humor hurts me emotionally sometimes. He doesn't make fun of my weight and stuff but he calls me names like "whore", "slut", and "hoe". I know that most of the time he is just joking around but it still hurts me emotionally. He always treats me like I'm 5 years old. I'm just sick of it. What can I do to get them to trust me?
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Sit down with your mom and tell her the real reason you don't talk to her. Then tell her that when your dad calls you thoses names(which he shouldn't be doing no matter what) that they hurt your feelings. Then if she doesn't do anything and he is still calling you names then tell him or someone at school. Try and show your parents they can trust you and that your not 10 yrs old anymore and that some day they are going to have to trust you. Even if its not that day. Hope this helped CLAIR <3
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Wow, first of all your dad doesn't need to call you those names at all. Even when he is just joking around. I kind of have the same problem though. I was never a trouble maker but my parents still don't trust me. When ever I try to talk to my parent's they won't listen and they think they know everything. They say I was your age once, but it's not the same. If your mom understands sometimes and if you are willing to talk to her you should. This is a situation she should belive you. None of those things were your fault, I mean do your parents have any common sence? Tell your mom that when you dad calls you those names that they really do hurt your feelings. The only way to get their trust back, is to earn it. But I honestly don't understand how you would do that because you did nothing wrong. Be extra nice and just don't argue with your dad or tick him off. You need to talk to your mom about it. Ask her to listen. But just know no matter what your parents will still love you. Good luck with everything!
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wow, your dad sounds really mean! those are BAD names and they arent names he should be calling you at all ..i dont care if hes joking. this is NOT your fault...but you cant just make your mom or dad change..its their problem they have trust issues..and your dad has other issues..(the name calling thing) keep talking to your mom..she sounds like the only one you can knock some sense into.
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