lilolamberlynn8806 answered Monday September 19 2005, 12:31 am: Dear miss bossy:
You should let her know how you feel! It doesn't mean you have to ruin that friendship but just let her know it bothers you! If she gets mad at you for it than she wasn't really a friend to being with! She might just want someone to boss around and she thinks your the person!
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x0laurenx0 answered Sunday September 18 2005, 8:41 pm: Heyy<3 Well I think you should talk to your friend she won't get mad at you for asking and talking to her about this problem. She will be glad that you truely want this friendship to last so you are trying to work this problem out. Confront her you really should if you won't then it will become a bigger problem. And then everything she does will annoy you cause you can't stand her anymore. I had this problem before. Trust me! Anyway the thing is you have to pick a good time and place to tell her. Maybe the next time she bosses you around say you know I have to talk to you about this or something like that. After you talk to her you will feel so much better that you got that off your chest and now it is over with.
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dhrutts answered Sunday September 18 2005, 1:31 pm: Hi there,
Sometimes it's easier to seethe in silence when someone does something to wind you up, but that doesn't make the issue go away. If anything, bottling up your feelings like this just makes the problem seem worse. It means you risk a situation where your mate steps just slightly out of line and you explode right in front of them - which doesn't solve anything.
Whether your friend's just being annoying without realising, or s/he's done something terrible that's totally wound you up, it's always wise to pick a good time to talk - preferably when you're feeling calm and there's nobody else around to chip in or stir things up for you.
Your aim here is to encourage this person to see things from your point of view. If your mate can see the upset they've caused for themselves, they'll be more likely to change their behaviour towards you.
Nobody likes to feel as if they're being attacked, or that somehow they have to defend their actions, so don't lay into them - it'll only risk a fistfight (or that slappy-scrap thing girls do sometimes).
You can't expect them to change their behaviour straight away, especially if you're both feeling a bit self-conscious after getting things out in the open. Instead, give them some time and space to process the problem and act upon it. If they value your friendship, you should see a new improved mate in no time.
GANGStAhBAbiiEx answered Sunday September 18 2005, 12:22 pm: than you can just tell her that she is to bossy and she gets really mean if you dont change thanb i dont think i want to be your friend anymore.
darkblair771 answered Sunday September 18 2005, 8:41 am: you should talk to her and if she still doesn't get it then she's not a true friend. don't let someone treat you like dirt. just pull her aside and tell her everything you feel. if she was a good friend she would understand if she is still snobby then she's probably just using you. [ darkblair771's advice column | Ask darkblair771 A Question ]
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