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Hey Everyone! Well in my town school has already started and I gate it w. a passion. lol. I'm trying to get my schedule re- done so I could take a couple of different electives because I hate mine. On top of my school problems my mom decided to bring home a huge brazzilion mastiff. (If ne of you have tht dof you know how big they get) Before my mom bought home this new dog I had a dog of my own- a miniature bishon frise. Now I feel like the new dog is trying to take the place of my other 1 and I HATE my new dog. I know it sounds mean but its true. I'm really stressed out about the new dog I have to live with and school in general. What are some things that I can do to relax and get all the stress out of my system?? Any help about the situation with my dogs would be really appreciated as well. Xo> Thnx in advance.
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I have a dog as well, and I'm sure that I would be angry if this new dog came and tried to take the place of her. However, just remember that a dog doesn't think that way! Your new dog just wants attention. There is no shame in loving your first dog more, but this new dog is, in fact, a living animal that doesn't know any better, and deserves a little bit of affection every once in a while. When I first got my dog, she was hyper and demanded our attention, but after a few months she settled down and respected us. Give your new dog a little bit of time and I'm sure things will settle down!
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You poor thing! I really do sympathise, because animals are as important to family life as humans. Personally, I don't think I'd have got through my year at a horrible middle school without Smokey, my beloved cat.
You don't say in your question what happened to your bishon frise,whether s/he died or was rehomed. If the former,(which I assume) then you have to let yourself grieve, just as you would for a person. Allowing yourself this feeling will mean that the pain will eventually evaporate, leaving you with joyful memories of your pet. If the latter, then it is undeniable that your mother behaved badly in imposing her will in the form of the mastif. I hate to say it, but if she habitually does such things she is probabably a fairly major contributor to your stress. You need to start learning to assert yourself in your own home(easier said than done I know) and making emotional space for yourself.
As for the school issue, hang in there with the different course choices. Anything that will make you feel less powerless is to be embraced. School can be such an unbearablly tedious business, but you want to get good grades so you van go to university, where you can have whatever pets you want. Sorry I wasn't much help, Lucretiax.
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You can't blame the dog if your stressed because let's face it, there are ways to distance your self from the animal. such as go to your room and shut the door. Put the dog in a different room when you want to go about your business in the house. There are ways to adjust, you just need to think smarter than the dog to go about it.
As for the school situation: That's the hardest thing to deal with. nobody likes to do things they have to. That's the thing you have to go to school. So try to make it as fun as possible.
Talk to your parents about your scheldule and have them talk to your your councelor to get her to change it. If your parents are too involved with other things, then go to your councelor and tell her.."Look, i need new electives, these aren't working out".
If that still doesn't work, complain to the teachers and explain that you didn't want their class, i'm sure they would be more than happy to give you a dismissal referal.
I hope I helped, I know your in a tight spot...Good Luck!
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