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How Would I Get Them To Change Their Minds??
My parents don't like colored people but i have a lot of colored friends that are guys. I think i'm starting to like one of them but i can't help it and i think he likes me. I've been going to all his footbell games and everything like that. but if my parents found out that we liked each other i would get in a lot of trouble ( and right now isn't a good time for that ). I asked them why they are like that and they said they knew some bad ones when they were growing up..and that a lot of colored people are like that to white people...but i said the black people that live around us had to get used to it and my parents should to but i don't think it worked. Would some one PLEASE help me?!?! Thank You So Much If You Can Help Me!
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you REALLY need to talk to your family about that. My stepfather is the same way. i have colored, chinese, arabic, mexican friends..but he is very racist. You just have to talk to them and say that not all colored people are "bad" ask if you can bring your friend home for dinner or something one night to show them he's not a bad person
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my parents are the same way and i think its totally wrong. yeah thers some bad ones out there but not all colored people are bad. so0o... my advice is to obay your parents. if you dont know what the consequences are they are most likely going to be bad so just stay frineds for now... you can still like him but make sure that youre not getting to involved
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My mom was the same exact way .. Until I introduced her to one of my black friends. People are always going to have opinions about people who are different from them, And I think its great that your openminded about that kind of thing. My advice is tell your parents the great things some of them do, And then if they agree invite one over to show them that they're not so bad. Hope I helped. <3.
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That's really sweet.I'm glad you found someone you like! Well first of all you need to tell your parents.If you bring him to maybe like family dinners or just to talk to your parents.If they meet him maybe they will like him and you can get your parents approvel.I mean once your parents talk to him and find out he's a nice kid your home free..Good luck with everything Tell me how it goes!!
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Megz
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Hi there,
From what you've said, you've evidently met a kind and supportive man who shares your affections, respect and trust. In many ways, he's the best person to help you through this time, because by standing side by side, you'll be able to show everyone concerned you're happy with one another.
So, talk to him about the situation, and find out how he feels yours and his parents would respond to the news that you're together. The most effective thing you can do is to show them it's the right thing for you both, as opposed to simply telling them and expecting them to accept it.
At the same time, they do need to show respect for their him, which will mean being prepared to listen and engage in dialogue. If you can, stay calm, keep an open mind and be patient, they can only do the same for you. It means even if they don't respond well to begin with, hopefully they'll relax their attitude as things flourish between you.
Goodluck
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Firstly, I would like to congratulate you for even thinking about taking a stand against your parents- you sound a very independent minded young lady. So many people are just brainwashed into their parents' way of thinking- so if you have liberal parents, you'll be a liberal, redneck parents, you'll be a redneck(lol).....But you're not...
So, how to tackle?You don't say how old you are, but I would guess somewhere in the early to mid teens? Dating at that age, finding a decent guy, is difficult enough without parental objection to irrelevancies such as race. I really don't know how to advise you, except to say that if you like this boy, by all means go on seeing him, on the sly if necessary. Better yet, of course, would be to openly defy your parents, but I can quite see that you wouldn't want to do that. Parents are so all powerful when we are young. Just stand your ground and keep your friendship with this boy, whatever else may develop. Good wishes, Lucretiaxx.
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